Is your Twitter list looking a little white? Kinkly’s sure is… Here are 25 excellent, smart sex educators and writers of color who are doing work worth paying attention to. Add ’em to your feed reader, Twitter timeline, and mental Rolodex if you haven’t already!
In alphabetical order…
Aerie of Aerie’s Room is a genderqueer blogger who writes about sex toys and board games, and has the sweetest smile in the whole world. I frequently think of and cite their post about how we should eliminate the word “foreplay” from our vocabulary.
Aida Manduley is a sex therapist, educator, and activist and one of the most articulately kink-savvy people I’ve ever encountered. They blog brilliantly about a range of intersectional issues too broad to be encapsulated in one sentence. And they’re always wearing THE BEST earrings.
Alex of Sexology Bae is a Black millennial sex blogger who writes about sex toys, sexual health, relationships, and more. I really identified with her recent post about weed, sex, and anxiety.
Angel of LupeSpace writes about sex toys, social justice, and trauma, and also tweets hilarious things. Her recent post about how to be a shitty ally is a much-needed wake-up call for many of us.
Aria Vega of Your Heavenly Body is a writer, sex educator, and sexual violence survivor who writes about sex, queerness, and mental health, among other things. Her recent post about “The Month of Queer Gatekeeping” made me want to stand up and applaud.
Carly of Dildo or DilDon’t (best blog name ever, right?!) is a sex educator, sex blogger, and wand vibe connoisseur. I always appreciate her perspective on the sex toy retail industry and body-positivity.
Dalychia and Rafaella of Afrosexology work to “promote Black self-empowerment through sexual liberation.” Their workshops cover topics like masturbation, sexual communication, oral sex, and twerking.
Dirty Lola is a sex educator, hilarious storyteller, and founder of super-fun edutainment event Sex Ed A Go-Go. Her work touches on body-positivity, polyamory, and kink, among other things. I continually admire how she manages to be both deeply compassionate and fiercely protective of her boundaries and other people’s.
Fairy Cake of Fairy Cake’s Land is a sex-positive lifestyle blogger who takes really cute selfies. I enjoyed her recent post on the joys of cunnilingus.
Feminista Jones is the author of Reclaiming Our Space, a forthcoming book about Black women’s impact on media, entertainment, and politics. She’s also a blogger, poet, social worker, and community activist.
Jimanekia Eborn is a sex educator, media consultant, and trauma expert. Her forthcoming podcast miniseries, Trauma Queen, looks like it’s gonna be amazing. She’s also the Director of Education for anti-rape campaign More Than No.
Karen B.K. Chan teaches and writes about emotional and social intelligence and how they relate to sex and relationships. In particular, I’ve really valued her work on rejection resilience and new models of consent.
Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models highlights the experiences of a vast array of different people practicing polyamory. His book, Love’s Not Color Blind, examines race and representation in polyamorous communities. He’s also currently crowdfunding for the marketing and publishing costs of a queer, polyamorous superhero novel featuring POC, and if that’s not awesome, I don’t know what is.
Dr. Lexx Brown-James is a sex therapist, educator, and owner of the Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy. She’s got some excellent free resources about mental health and sexuality that you should check out and put to good use!
Luna Matatas is a sex educator, burlesque artist, and creator of cute crafts. Whether you need a workshop on cock-and-ball torture or a cookie cutter shaped like a clitoris, Luna’s the person to ask. She’s also amazingly kind, confident, and fun to be around!
Mari Ramsawakh of Indivisible Writing is a disabled, non-binary writer, activist, and podcaster. Their writing on queerness, cannabis, erotica, and racism in queer spaces is always sharp and thought-provoking.
Marla Renee Stewart is a relationship coach, sex educator, and co-founder of the well-regarded Sex Down South conference. Several of her workshops involve hands-on learning, an important aspect of sex education if you’re willing and able to go there!
Mollena Williams-Haas is a writer, kink educator, incredible storyteller, and full-time “executive slave and muse” to her husband, composer Georg Friedrich Haas. Her insights on body-positivity and D/s relationships always leave me laughing, crying, and thinking. She and her husband starred in a documentary called The Artist & The Pervert which is probably my favorite new film I’ve seen in the past year.
Mr. BLK of The Black Pomegranate is a kink and sex educator, and also a total rope bondage whiz. His site, which he co-writes with his teaching partner Ms. Pomegranate, is a fantastic resource for kink newbies and pros alike. On a personal note, a conversation we had about rope bondage had a profoundly positive, reassuring effect on me at a time in my life when I was worried rope was largely off-limits to me due to my body’s limitations, and I still think about that a lot.
Nadine Thornhill is a sex educator and writer based in my hometown of Toronto. She’s currently trying to save Ontario sex ed, a noble and important goal now that Doug Ford is making our country into America Lite.
Rae Chen of theNotice is a beauty blogger who also touches on fashion, sex toys, relationships, and chronic illness. Their work for Teen Vogue on race, privilege, and beauty is always thought-provoking and relentlessly well-written.
Ruby Johnson is a sex educator, counsellor, and blogger. She’s the founder and organizer of PolyDallas Millennium, a symposium about ethical non-monogamy. Everyone I know who’s been to PolyDallas says it’s terrific!
Shadeen Francis is a therapist, educator, and author specializing in sexuality and social justice. She’s also a moderator of a brand-new webseries called OutPour about pop culture and social justice in the LGBTQ community.
Victoria of Pretty Pink Lotus Bud is a body-positive, bisexual, Black sex blogger. Her post about “the myth of the slut” is eye-opening and empowering!
Of course, this list isn’t exhaustive, and there are so many more POC doing incredible work in the sexuality field. Who are your favorite writers and educators of color in the sex industry?