What to Pack for a Sex Getaway

Kate Sloan

The weather outside is dull and grey, and it has me thinking about potential trips to far-flung locales – for lounging on the beach and sipping daiquiris over a good book, sure, but also for sexy adventures with beloved beaux. Sex in a hotel bed (or even on an Airbnb pull-out couch) just hits different, y’know?

I can’t tell you exactly what to bring with you on a horny holiday, since you know your own sexual needs best… but here’s a list of things I think most sexually active people would benefit from having in their suitcase on such a jaunt, whether you’re headed to a swingers’ resort in Cancún, a luxury escort agency in Vienna, or even just a hotel in your own hometown. Let me know in the comments if there’s anything crucial I missed!

1-2 lubes

Lube is a must-have for pretty much everyone. No matter what type(s) of sex or masturbation you get into, lube is likely to make it feel a whole lot more pleasurable and comfortable.

On a typical trip, I tend to pack two lubes: a water-based option (ideally Sutil Rich or Sliquid Sassy), which I use with most sex toys and for most types of penetration, and a silicone-based option (ideally Uberlube), which is better suited for things like handjobs and clitoral masturbation. However, if I only had the space for one lube, I’d tend to go water-based, since it’s compatible with all types of sex toys and safer sex supplies. Speaking of which…

Safer sex supplies

I always bring condoms with me on my sexy travels; they’re my go-to contraceptive method, since hormonal birth control fucks with my mental health too bad, and they’re also just good to have around. If I was attending an orgy/gangbang or somesuch, I might bring a few different size options with me, because I’m cum-siderate like that! You might also consider packing dental dams, latex/nitrile gloves, and/or finger cots, depending on your needs/desires.

A small vibrator + a big vibrator

Suitcase space doesn’t always allow for this, but in an ideal world, I would always be able to pack both a Magic Wand Rechargeable and a smaller, more pinpointed vibe like the We-Vibe Tango X. Wands are super versatile; I love using them on partners of various genders/anatomies, as well as on myself, particularly when travel exhaustion has lowered my sensitivity. But it’s also nice to have a more petite vibrator on hand for when I’m craving that sensation instead.

Some vibrators have a travel lock function, which smartly ensures that the vibrations won’t turn on in transit, startling TSA agents and taxicab drivers alike. I try to bring at least one vibe that’s waterproof, because jerking off in a hotel bathtub is the height of luxury, if you ask me! Don’t forget to pack the charger(s) for your vibrator(s) as well, if they’re rechargeable, since a dead vibe sucks just as much in a beautiful destination as it does in your bed at home.

Something penetrative

If you or your partner(s) are into penetration, you’re probably gonna want to bring a dildo, butt plug, insertable vibrator, or some other type of penetrative toy with you. Think about which internal spot(s) you most often like to target, and pack accordingly. I’ll often bring one realistic silicone dildo that hits my A-spot and one firmer dildo that hits my G-spot, just to cover my bases. To be on the safe side, probably leave any glass toys at home (or do as I do and pack them wrapped in multiple layers of socks).

1-2 kinky sensory toys

If you are kinky comme moi, you may want to toss a couple of sensory-play items into your suitcase incase the mood strikes. I’ll often bring a small wooden bat or paddle for impact play, and maybe something like this dragon claw for light sadomasochism. That being said, your hands are great kink toys in and of themselves, capable of slapping, scratching, etc., so you may not need any extra equipment in this category!

A few kinky pervertibles

I bring an eye mask with me every time I travel, to help block out light so I can sleep better – but it also works a treat as a blindfold for kinky sex. Likewise, scarves and neckties can double as bondage gear, and a wooden hairbrush makes a killer impact implement. When suitcase space is at a premium, you might as well make the most of every item you bring!

Gum, mints, etc.

Self-explanatory! Sometimes I’ll also bring cough drops along, just incase. Trying to have an intimate date-y conversation in a bar or restaurant can be tricky when your throat is sore… as can giving head!

Hair elastics & bobby pins

Stray hairs in my mouth during oral sex are the bane of my existence. Fuck off and let me do what I do best!!

Headphones

Useful if you plan on watching porn and don’t want to risk disturbing the people in the next room… but also great if you, like me, sometimes have phone sex while staying in hotels. Headphones allow you to put your phone down, freeing up your hands for… other things.

Aftercare snacks

I usually pick these up at a duty-free shop once I’ve gone through airport security, but you can also get ’em at a hotel gift shop or pretty much anywhere. Chocolate, candy, chips, etc. are all great choices. It’s especially fun to get regional snacks that are only available wherever you’re staying!

 

What else do you think is important to bring on a sexy vacation?

 

This post contains a sponsored link. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

5 Things I Love About Rope Bondage

Kate Sloan

I’ve got rope on the brain today. Maybe it’s because this world is noisier and more chaotic than ever, but I’m craving the peace and quiet of a good rope session, whether I’m the one being tied up or the one doing the tying.

It’s a beautiful kinky art form with a rich history. Here’s a little knowledge gleaned from my personal history with rope – my top 5 favorite things about it!

 

It’s peaceful & meditative

Like I mentioned up top, I find rope bondage to be a deeply calming activity. As a top, it can be meditative to focus carefully on the tie(s) you’re doing, adjusting and re-adjusting as you go. As a bottom, I enjoy being focused on like that, and often find that my mind wanders in a blissfully aimless way during a rope scene, similarly to how it does during meditation, yoga, or a quiet sunset walk. Sharing that peaceful connection with a partner is wonderful, but I can find that serenity even when I’m tying myself. And on that note…

 

It can be a shared activity or a solo one

This isn’t true of all kinks – and indeed, depending on your physical and emotional needs, it may not even be true of rope for you – but I’ve always found that rope is something I enjoy doing on my own just as much as with a partner.

You can look up self-tie tutorials on YouTube or in rope bondage books written by educators you trust (Midori is a personal fave) and view a solo session as practicing on yourself, or as reconnecting with the deepest parts of yourself psychologically, the ones you keep quietly buried most of the time.

 

Everyone does it a little differently

There are several reasons I refer to rope bondage as an art form, rather than just a kink activity – and one way this is true is that each rope bondage tie is its own unique creation, even if you’re following along with a pre-existing pattern. Each person – from my cavalcade of ex-boyfriends to Berlin dungeon-dwellers to New Zealand escorts – will bring a slightly different flavor and approach to how they tie.

Some of my partners have gotten a little sadistic with it, rubbing the rope roughly along my skin to leave bitey burn marks in its wake. Some have been soothing and smooth, occasionally muttering some comforting reassurance in my ear. Some have narrated aloud throughout the scene, explaining what they’re doing, so our session is both sensual and educational. You can tell a lot about somebody by how they tie you up!

 

Being restrained is fucking hot

This might be the most obvious/common reason to do rope bondage, but it’s worth mentioning nonetheless! Bondage is one of my major kinks, and I tend to get wildly wet when tied up by someone I’m attracted to. The trust involved is intoxicating, the surrender can be delicious, and there can also be a frisson of objectification kink involved in rope, if I start to feel more like an intricate art project my top is perfecting than like a person (🔥).

For this reason, I’ve often found rope bondage to be good foreplay for me – although it’s also perfectly fine if my top has to peace out after we finish our aftercare, because I can always jerk off to the memory of the scene! (I used to have a bondage-focused FWB and he would occasionally bring me pizza, tie me up, cuddle me for a while, and then leave. Honestly ideal in many ways…!)

 

You usually get a nice souvenir…

…whether it’s a photo that your top snaps of the finished tie in all its glory, or some light rope burns on your skin, or maybe even a slight lingering soreness in certain muscles from holding still for a long time. Of course, you should seek medical attention if any such “souvenirs” become worrisome – like if you feel tingling from cut-off circulation anywhere, or think an abrasion might be getting infected – but for the most part, I’ve found rope to be a low-risk activity when done with a well-informed top, and I love seeing evidence of yesterday’s scene on my skin. 🥰

 

Fellow rope lovers, what are your favorite things about it?

 

This post contains a sponsored link. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

Review: Ppunson Tom 36-lb. realistic male torso sex doll

Kate Sloan
(My hickey in this photo is not from Tom 😉)

“What the fuck is this huge box?!??!?”

That’s what I shouted when the Ppunson 36-lb. realistic male torso sex doll arrived at my apartment. (Phew, his name is a mouthful. Just like his dick.)

You see, my email inbox can be a chaotic place, and I hadn’t realized Ppunson had decided to move ahead with a review, so I was genuinely baffled. “It’s probably a sex doll, right?” said my wife with a shrug. “I mean, what else would be this big?”

Indeed, when I tore open the box (and the multiple smaller boxes therein, matryoshka-style), I discovered a lifelike (though not exactly life-sized) sex doll with an enormous penis. My life is very weird. Let’s talk about this Ppunson doll. He’s referred to by the name “Tom” on the Ppunson website, so I’ll be referring to him as such in this review.

The day Tom arrived (photo by mb) – I am 5’4″, for reference!

Tech specs

Before we proceed, a few technical details on this barrel-chested marvel of sexy engineering:

  • Weight: Tom weighs 36 lbs, which is a little bit heavier than the dick-wielding sex doll I previously reviewed, the Tantaly Mark (33.6 lbs).
  • Height & width: Tom measures about 26 inches tall, from the bottom of his cut-off thighs to the top of his cut-off neck. He’s 29 inches wide at his widest point, which is his hips.
  • Dick: Tom’s dick is 8 inches long, and its widest diameter is about 1.6 inches.
  • Materials: Tom is made of thermoplastic elastomer (TPE), a squishy, lifelike, porous material. It also contains a flexible skeleton that allows it to be positioned in various ways.
  • Hole: Tom has a fuckable butthole, which goes 5 inches deep and is pleasantly textured like the inside of a Fleshlight. I don’t have a dick so I wasn’t able to test this aspect of the toy.
At rest in my office

Things I like about the Ppunson Tom:

  • Good dick firmness: When I reviewed a different sex doll previously, my top complaint was that its dick was so squishy I could hardly feel it inside me – but Tom has no such issues. Its dick is a nice blend of firm-versus-soft, akin to something like VixSkin – it’s not dual-density, but the bendable metal core feels firmer than the TPE surrounding it, which almost makes it feel dual-density. Orgasming with this doll’s dick inside me is satisfying and intense, because I can feel it being rhythmically squeezed like a stress ball with every vaginal contraction.
  • Firm chest is good for leverage: The other sex doll I’ve tried was so squishy that my fist would sink unsettlingly into its chest if I tried to push on that area for leverage while riding it, the way I often do when riding human partners. The Tom, by comparison, has a firmer body overall, so it actually holds its shape when I lean on it, and is therefore easier to ride.
  • Angle-adjustable dick: While the shape/curve of the dick can’t be altered and is always ultra-straight (of which more below), the angle at which it juts out from the doll’s body can be adjusted, which makes this doll a lot more versatile than most. For example, when I got too tired to keep riding Tom’s dick, I was able to lie down with my legs draped over his chest (sort of like this) and bend his dick downward so it would fit inside me. I could still grind up and down on his dick, but this position gave me a lot more room to use a vibrator on my clit, and was also a lot comfier for me, so I appreciated Tom’s phallic flexibility.
  • Beautiful realistic details: I wrote “pretty nipples” in my testing notes, and it’s true, they are quite pretty. Granted, I was probably only checking them out because the doll has no head/face so I had little else to look at while riding him, but still – I think most people are more visually oriented than I am, and would therefore appreciate these little touches! Tom’s dick is also veiny in a realistically droolworthy way, and his balls look remarkably real too.
  • Reasonably priced: Tom currently retails for $187 USD, less than half the price of the similar Tantaly doll I previously tested. It’s kind of wild that you can get a whole poseable torso, complete with fuckable butt and rideable dick, for less than the price of a high-end wand vibrator.
Obligatory dick-‘n’-balls close-up

Things I don’t like about the Ppunson Tom:

  • Porous material: Lots of sex dolls, including this one, are made out of porous materials like TPE or TPR – which is understandable, since it would presumably be cost-prohibitive to make a toy this large out of silicone – but it poses a number of problems, namely:
    • Hygiene issues: Porous materials can never be entirely sanitized, so once you’ve gotten your bodily fluids on/in this doll, you shouldn’t share it with anyone else unless you’re okay with being fluid-bonded with them. (For this reason, I used a condom on Tom’s dick while testing it, because a friend wants to adopt him after I’m done with my review.)
    • Durability: Porous materials don’t last as long as non-porous ones before they start to smell weird or fall apart, so you may need to replace your doll in a few years or so, depending on how often you use it and how well you take care of it.
    • Upkeep necessary: TPE sometimes starts to feel sticky/tacky and needs to be sprinkled with cornstarch after cleaning to maintain its smooth, soft texture. More upkeep tips here.
    • No silicone- or oil-based lubes: You can only use water-based lubes with this doll, which don’t last as long as alternatives and may therefore need to be reapplied more often.
    • Easily stained: Ppunson warns that you shouldn’t wear dark-colored or brand-new clothing when using your doll (and likewise shouldn’t dress the doll in anything brand-new or dark-colored), as clothing dyes can stain the porous material.
  • Dick too straight: Why don’t more sex doll companies make dolls with a curved dick?! I guess maybe they want the toy to be adaptable to various different positions, and a good curve for the missionary position is different from a good curve for doggie-style, for instance… but I found Tom’s dick to be so straight that it kept painfully poking me in the cervix, and I had to be careful about positioning to get it anywhere near my A-spot.
  • Bulky, heavy, hard to clean: As is standard for sex dolls, cleaning this guy is a rigamarole. Generally you’re gonna have to put him in a bathtub or shower to wash him, especially if you make use of his butthole – and I’m rarely in the mood to lug around 36 pounds of dead weight when I’ve just jerked off! It’s also obviously hard to store something this big, especially in a small apartment (under the bed is often a good spot).
  • Uncomfortable-looking back arch: I’m sure plenty of gay men (among others) would appreciate Tom’s impressive back arch when using him from behind, but I was mostly riding his dick, and every time I looked at his elaborately arched back, I couldn’t help but think, “Yikes, that looks uncomfortable,” which took me out of the moment a little.
  • No storage case: The Tom doll doesn’t come with any kind of carrying case or storage bag, which is annoying, especially given how easy it is to stain TPE and how hard it is to carry this thing around. Sure, you could keep it in one of the cardboard boxes it came in, but that’s not particularly protective and certainly not sexy, unless you’ve got a corrugation fetish!
  • Only one skin tone: Unfortunately this is pretty common in the realm of sex dolls, but this doll is only available in a Caucasian skin tone. So far as I can tell, that’s true of all the other Ppunson dolls, too.
This doll’s got cake 🍰

Final thoughts

A lot of the problems I have with the Ppunson Tom are problems I have with sex dolls in general: it’s heavy and bulky, annoying to clean, and made of a porous material. You’d be hard-pressed to find a sex doll that doesn’t have these drawbacks, especially for less than $300.

Indeed, Tom‘s $187 price tag makes me inclined to forgive most of his flaws. He costs less than half what my last big-dicked sex doll did, but his cock feels better inside me, he’s easier to use in various positions, and I find him more visually appealing than that other doll. I do wish that his dick wasn’t so straight, and that his spine wasn’t so alarmingly contorted, but overall, I’ve enjoyed testing him. Thanks to Ppunson for surprise-sending me this nude cutie – he’s one of the better uninvited guests I’ve had in a while!

 

This post was sponsored, meaning I was paid to write a fair and honest review of this product. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

Review: Lovense Exomoon lipstick vibrator

Kate Sloan

What is the Lovense Exomoon?

Reviewing a lipstick-shaped pressure-wave toy earlier this week made me realize – I’ve never reviewed the lipstick-shaped Lovense Exomoon vibe, even though it’s one of my favorite clitoral vibrators released in the last decade!

As far as Lovense toys go, this one is pretty simple. It’s basically just your standard bullet vibrator, except that it’s made to look like a lipstick, complete with red tapered tip and sleek removable cap. But it’s a great vibrator, and is easily the best lipstick-esque sex toy I’ve ever had the pleasure of using. Let’s discuss its many benefits and its very few shortcomings…

Things I like about the Lovense Exomoon:

  • Strong: These vibrations are impressively powerful, especially for such a petite vibe. I’ve taken the Exomoon with me while traveling on many occasions, and have never felt disappointed that I didn’t bring a bigger/stronger vibe instead, because the Exomoon has always gotten the job done. Its tip is made of silicone, but it’s firm enough that it doesn’t dull the vibrations, as with something like the squishy-tipped We-Vibe Touch X.
  • Rumbly-ish: While it definitely gets buzzier the more that you turn it up, for the most part the Exomoon vibrates at a satisfyingly rumbly (i.e. low-pitched) frequency. It’s not as rumbly as my beloved We-Vibe Tango X, but it’s still notably rumbly for its size, and can easily get me off, sometimes even through a layer or two of clothing, due to how stimulating it is.
  • Price: The Exomoon retails for $79, which is slightly cheaper than the comparable and excellent We-Vibe Tango X ($85). Sure, it’s pricier than your average bullet, but most bullets are buzzy and cheap-feeling (especially those that use disposable batteries), whereas both the Exomoon and Tango X feel high-quality and have a robust, rumbly motor that makes them worth the money.
  • Angled tip: Like the Tango X (and like most actual lipsticks), the Exomoon has an angled tip that tapers to a point. This gives you many different sensation options, depending on how you hold the toy. I mostly place the flat bit against my clitoral hood or inner labia for some indirect stimulation, but folks who prefer more intense/pinpointed sensations could use the very tip of the toy, whereas those who prefer broader sensations could just lay the toy flat against their junk.
  • Waterproof: The Exomoon is IPX7 waterproof, so you can use it in the shower, bath, etc. without issue – and I have!
  • Battery life: The Exomoon lasts up to 3 hours on a 2-hour charge. That’s notably longer than the comparable Tango X‘s 2-hour runtime, although the Tango takes only 90 minutes to charge.
  • Small & lightweight: The Exomoon’s tiny size allows it to fit neatly between bodies during sex. I also never struggle to hold onto the Exomoon, even on bad hand pain days.
  • Portable: Not only is the Exomoon small enough to easily be tucked into a pocket or purse; it also has a lipstick-like cap that helps protect the business end from dirt/dust in transit. I wish it also had a travel lock function, though.
  • Discreet: Unlike most other lipstick-esque sex toys, the Exomoon could actually be mistaken for a lipstick if someone spotted it in your bag or on your nightstand, so you wouldn’t be immediately outing yourself as owning as a vibrator.
  • Long-distance controllable: I don’t tend to use clitoral vibes this way because I like to control them myself, but it’s good to know that the Exomoon, like most other Lovense products, can be used long-distance via Lovense’s fantastic app.
  • Same charger as other Lovense toys: Surprisingly few sex toy companies do this – Lovense uses the same charging cable for most of their toys, including this one. May not matter to you if you only ever intend to own one Lovense toy, but if you own multiples, this is super convenient, especially when traveling.
L to R: MAC M·A·Cximal Sleek Satin lipstick in “Center of Attention” (a lovely gift from my friend Edzel ❤️), the Lovense Exomoon, and Pat McGrath MatteTrance lipstick in “Elson”

Things I don’t like about the Lovense Exomoon:

  • Only 3 steady speeds: If you’re just using the Exomoon as-is without connecting it to the Lovense app on your phone, you can press its one button to cycle through 3 steady speeds followed by 4 patterns. I strongly prefer vibes to have at least 8 steady speeds (as the Tango X does), since it allows for a more gradual/less jarring experience – but at least I can vary the vibration strength more minutely using the app when I really want to.
  • Noisy-ish: While not ridiculously loud, the Exomoon is louder than I’d prefer/expect of a vibe this size. I measured its decibel level using my Apple Watch and found that it tops out at about 61 db (roughly the volume of a dishwasher), whereas the Tango X never gets above 45 db (somewhere between a refrigerator and moderate rainfall). The Exomoon also sounds buzzier/more high-pitched than the Tango, so the noise is more noticeable and marginally more grating.
  • Name: You know I’m grasping at straws to come up with downsides when I bring up something as trivial as a product’s name! Seriously though, I don’t get why Lovense’s lipstick vibe is named after “a natural satellite that orbits an exoplanet or other non-stellar extrasolar body” instead of something lipstick-related. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Lovense Exomoon (center) once again surrounded by lipsticks

Final thoughts

I’m a big fan of the Lovense Exomoon! I think it’s a solid, decently-priced clitoral vibrator, with a fun aesthetic that’s cute without being cutesy. It’s strong and rumbly enough to always be able to get me off, and portable enough that I’ve taken it with me on many overnight stays and vacations.

I wish its presets included more than 3 steady speeds, and that it was a bit quieter. As-is, I think the We-Vibe Tango X is a slightly better vibe on most dimensions, so I would generally recommend that one instead. But if you prefer the Exomoon’s lipstick-y look, and/or you want the long-distance controllability offered by Lovense toys, I think the Exomoon is well worth considering. It gets my seal of approval! 💋

 

This post was not sponsored, although Lovense did send me the product for free back when it launched in 2022.

Behind the Seams: Bundled Up in Brooklyn

Kate Sloan

February 2nd, 2026

Wore this out to dinner with my wife, mb. My hair is chaotic because I was still a bit sad about a hard conversation I’d had to have with a friend a couple days before this, but mb took good care of me! Anyone remember this old Dildorks logo, drawn by Amy/Starboots? I still love it, even though we don’t really look like this anymore and have since switched to new album art by Addison Finch.

What I’m wearing:

  • Dildorks baseball tee – Zazzle circa 2017
  • Black cashmere cardigan – Gap
  • Black ponte pants – Gap, gift from my mama
  • Black leather Frye harness boots
  • Black leather vintage Coach Willis bag

February 4th, 2026

It was insanely cold in New York for much of January and February – and I say that as someone who grew up in Canada! I bundled up every time I left the house, and also had to layer my clothing carefully, even for quick jaunts to the local pizzeria or dispensary.

Here’s what I wore to go have drinks with my pal Brent (a.k.a. Brentalfloss, my Question Box cohost) at a bowling-themed bar called Gutter Bar. We regaled each other with various gossipy sagas from our personal and professional lives over IPAs. Pretty ideal, despite it being so cold outside that my eyelashes kept freezing over when I was en route!

What I’m wearing:

  • Pink cashmere sweater – J. Crew
  • Denim jumpsuit – Aritzia
  • Pink knit toque – gift from my mom
  • Pink leather Doc Martens
  • Prescription sunglasses – Zenni
  • Black leather vintage Coach Willis bag
  • Navy clitoris-shaped earrings – a now-defunct Etsy shop

February 6th, 2026

It’s always a good day (or night) to visit Boyfriend Co-Op, a lesbian bar/café overflowing with vintage furniture and mellow vibes. Went there with my wife on this day to celebrate some good news she’d received! We sat at the bar and sipped lovely cocktails over great conversation.

What I’m wearing:

  • Blue “Slut for Kindness” T-shirt – Supriya x Eva Bloom
  • Blue cashmere cardigan – Gap
  • Skinny jeans – thrifted
  • Blue metallic Doc Martens
  • Black knit toque with ghost logo – Vaultboy merch
  • Black leather vintage Coach Willis bag

February 7th, 2026

Another outfit for a low-key dinner with the wife, if I recall correctly. We may have been going to Santa Panza. (Their ragu mafaldine pasta is my favorite comfort meal currently. Preferably with a Paper Plane or two!)

What I’m wearing:

  • Black blazer – thrifted
  • Red T-shirt – thrifted
  • Black pants – Gap, via my mom
  • Black leather Frye harness boots
  • Silver hoop earrings

February 8th, 2026

Another way-too-cold day. One thing I learned, growing up in Toronto (and occasionally having to schlep to 8 a.m. university lectures on the streetcar in the middle of winter), is that comfort is ultimately more important to me than looking cute. It sucks when you’re trying to have a good time with pals but you can’t stay present because your teeth are chattering and your knees are knocking together! I still aim to strike a balance between coziness and cuteness, as seen here – but when push comes to shove, practicality has to win out, ’cause you know what’s not cute? Frostbite!!

What I’m wearing:

  • Black cashmere Ralph Lauren sweaterdress – a hand-me-down from my high school girlfriend circa 2009
  • Black modal nightgown (layered underneath, for warmth & coverage) – Calvin Klein Sleepwear
  • Black woollen tights
  • Black leather Frye harness boots
  • Black leather vintage Coach Willis bag
  • Navy clitoris-shaped earrings

…and incase you were wondering what it looked like when I went out:

…Here’s a bonus outerwear shot of the same outfit! Additions include:

  • Bright turquoise long goosedown coat – bought from Land’s End several years ago; my friend Casia once told me that this makes me look like I’m wearing a sleeping bag, but it is extremely warm, so it’s worth it!
  • Navy knit cowl – Yokoo (absolutely obsessed, big recommend, it is one of the main things getting me through this winter)
  • Black knit toque with ghost logo – Vaultboy merch

February 10th, 2026

mb and I were celebrating our 8-year collarversary, i.e. 8 years since she first put a collar on me! Our collars have always been blue because it’s a special color in our relationship history, so I always wear blue to celebrate this day.

It was a perfect date night: first, mb took me to dinner at Le Crocodile, the French restaurant in the lobby of the Wythe Hotel, which is where we were staying together when she first collared me. I didn’t realize that’s where we were going, and I practically burst into tears when we got there! Then we went to see the Improvised Shakespeare Company perform. They were transcendent; I laughed so hard I couldn’t breathe. Improv is also very romantic for me and mb, because we’ve both always loved it and we saw some New York improv together on our second date, way back in 2018 💙 Thanks to mb for planning such a beautiful evening for us!

What I’m wearing:

  • Blue crushed velvet dress – Forever 21, many years ago; bought to wear to our first collarversary date, if I recall correctly!
  • Blue cashmere cardigan – Gap
  • Black leggings – Gap
  • Blue metallic Doc Martens
  • Tiffany & Co. dog collar – a gift from my love
  • …& barely visible: a great Agent Provocateur bra, because sometimes cleavage can pull a whole look together 😉

February 13th, 2026

Another wonderful date night with da wifey: we had pizza at Roberta’s and then watched Sinners, which was fantastic. At the pizzeria, they were having a “My Bloody Valentine”-themed party, so lots of the servers had fake blood spattered all over them (which might’ve been marinara sauce, for all I know), and a tattoo artist was doing Valentine-y flash tattoos in the back room. I love Brooklyn.

What I’m wearing:

  • Magic Wand T-shirt – Pen & Kink
  • Black flared jeans – Gap
  • Black leather Frye harness boots
  • Black leather vintage Coach Willis bag
  • New red prescription glasses – Zenni

February 14th, 2026

Valentine’s Day outfit! Y’all know I love to dress in a Valentine-y manner and will take any excuse to do so, so I had fun putting this look together, as ever. I had also just received a new push-up bra in the mail from Victoria’s Secret, which was fortuitous timing 😂

What I’m wearing:

  • Red tank top – gift from my mama
  • Red pencil skirt – American Apparel like a decade ago
  • Black leggings – Gap
  • Red cowboy boots with stars on them – a hand-me-down from my high school girlfriend’s mom in 2008 or so
  • Red suit jacket – borrowed from my wife; it’s part of a suit she had custom-made by Alan David to officiate a wedding (I wish the pants fit me too, ’cause I would’ve just worn the whole suit instead!)

What clothes/outfits have you been loving lately, my darlings?