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Review: BeMoreKinky BDSM app for couples

Kate Sloan
idk why this one made me laugh so hard but it did, and now it’s the lead image in my review, lmao

What is the BeMoreKinky app?

Available for both iOS and Android, the BeMoreKinky app is designed by and for kinky couples. It’s meant to be a hub for sexual communication between you and your partner, via features like BDSM quizzes, scene planners, end-to-end encrypted chat, guided intimacy exercises, a habit tracker, and a punishment wheel.

You can use it solo to gain self-knowledge about your kinks and desires, but it works best when used with a partner. You can invite them via a special link or code, and you’ll be able to interact through the app, see each other’s list of kink activities you’re open to, and more.

Things I like about the BeMoreKinky app:

  • Conversation-starter: As someone who wrote an introductory book on kink that was meant to kickstart a dialogue between partners, I’ve heard from many readers about the value of an external kinky conversation-starter, especially early on in one’s sexual self-discovery. It can be hard to bring up the things you’re into, and playing with this app together is a low-stress way to raise these topics. You could narrate aloud while one of you does a quiz on your bondage preferences, for example, or discuss your favorite titles/honorifics as you fill out your profiles together – and then just see where the conversation takes you.
  • Lots of kink inspiration: Human sexuality is so vast that there’s always more to discover, and this app is crammed full of kinks, fetishes, and activities for you to peruse and discuss. If you feel like your sex life is in a rut, but you don’t know quite how to shake things up, this app could definitely inspire you in that regard. For instance, lately I’ve been pondering what femdom-y honorific I might like to be called by a new person I’m seeing, and it was interesting to scroll through BeMoreKinky’s list of suitable titles (mistress, goddess, empress, etc.) to see what struck me.
  • MojoUpgrade-style activity matching: Anyone else remember MojoUpgrade, the classic internet quiz that shows you only the activities that both you and your partner said you’d be up for? It’s a great communication tool, and one of the core features of BeMoreKinky is something similar – once you and your partner have both rated several kink activities (which admittedly can be a decent-sized time investment), the app shows you all the activities your partner rated highly, as well as the ones you both said you like. This is a helpful starting point for planning scenes together, particularly with newer partners whose sexuality you’re less familiar with and less comfortable directly asking about.
  • “In the mood” status indicator: In the app’s “profile” tab, there’s a slider where you can indicate to your partner whether you’re “in the mood” or not. This didn’t send me any kind of notification when my wife activated hers – I had to seek it out myself by looking at the “partner” tab – but still a potentially useful functionality for people who struggle with sexual communication.
  • Encrypted chat: The built-in chat feature is end-to-end encrypted, so you can rest assured that your kinky convos are safe and secure. Sure, the same may be true for whatever app(s) you currently use to text with your partner in everyday life, but some people may prefer having a separate digital space for sexy chats, especially if you’re doing some kind of roleplay that benefits from that type of digital compartmentalization. (Sexy tech-support agent roleplay, anyone?!)
  • Tracks habits & rewards: Lots of kinksters enjoy dynamics where one partner monitors the other’s progress in achieving certain goals, whether those are directly kinky (e.g. “shine Mistress’s leather boots once a month,” “edge yourself 3 times before coming”) or more quotidian in nature (e.g. “read a book per week,” “go for a walk every day”). BeMoreKinky has a feature that allows you to assign and track the completion of habitual tasks like these. There are other apps that can do this, sure, but how many of them are built right into the interface you’re already using for kink negotiation and sexy chat? It’s cool to be able to do it all in one place. This feature was admittedly somewhat buggy when I tested it out, but hopefully it’ll get ironed out in future releases.
  • Polyamory features (in beta): There’s a huge degree of overlap between the kink community and the consensual non-monogamy community, so I was glad to see that BeMoreKinky has a “multi-partner mode” in beta currently. You can switch between multiple partners (up to 5!) without any of them being able to see each other’s quiz answers. While this doesn’t cover every possible non-monogamy configuration, it nonetheless makes this app much more polyamory-friendly than most of the comparable apps/sites I’ve seen.
  • Sleek design: It’s a good-lookin’ app, I must say!

Things I don’t like about the BeMoreKinky app:

  • Buggy: I unfortunately encountered a lot of bugs while trying to use this app – chat messages would randomly vanish, new habits didn’t appear until I’d closed/restarted the app, sometimes the app would randomly switch to a different tab without me selecting that, etc. My wife is a software developer so I sympathize with the struggles involved in making an app like this, but these types of issues are particularly frustrating when you’re trying to get into a sexy/kinky mood and would rather focus on flirting than troubleshooting!
  • A.I. integration: There is A.I.-generated stuff all over this app – some of it disclosed, some seemingly not – and it’s characteristically mediocre. Granted, I’m biased ‘n’ bitter, as a human being who writes about kink professionally and has been (shoddily) replaced with A.I. by some of my past clients – but I still find it sad to see A.I. being used for things like kink scene planning. Half the fun of kink is communicating about it – the negotiation, the flirtation, the mutual discovery – and if you use an A.I. tool to do that stuff, you’re denying yourself and your partner the opportunity to get to know yourselves and each other better, and all the delicious intimacy and vulnerability involved in that process. Naturally, I’m also against the usage of A.I. for art/writing/etc. because it takes away work/pay from skilled human creators who could’ve done a better job.
  • Poorly written quizzes: Probably related to the above point, I found many of the quizzes in this app to be confusingly written, repetitive, at least partially inaccurate, and ultimately not all that illuminating. For example, a quiz titled “Are you a giver or receiver?” mostly asked about dominance and submission – a separate concept from giving vs. receiving, as most kink educators could tell you – while a different quiz on impact play essentially just told me that I’m into impact play, which I already knew, rather than offering any insight on how I might explore that further or what specifically draws me to impact.
  • Overwhelming/excessive at times: This app is packed full of so many features that I think it could easily scare off some nervous newbies. I know from working in sex shops that BDSM beginners often feel overwhelmed as-is, because they’ve already battled through layers of shame and stigma just to be able to admit they might be kinky. The sheer number of features in this app could make them feel out of their depth, instead of encouraging them to dip a toe into kinky waters. It also annoyed me that the app only saves the activities you rate if you rate an entire category of activities (e.g. the “strict femdom” category contains 40 activities), so if you have to stop midway through, none of the activities you’ve rated to that point will be saved. This makes the app even more intimidating, because you can’t “microdose” it by just rating a few activities here and there when you have time – you have to commit to going through a long list of them before they’ll save.
  • Not good for trans people: Upon downloading the app, my wife filled out her basic profile, including indicating that she only wanted to be referred to with feminine terms. Shortly thereafter, we tested out the A.I. scene planning feature, and it immediately misgendered her(!!) and made erroneous assumptions about our sexual anatomy. As-is, I would recommend that trans and nonbinary people avoid this app for the time being. I hope better guardrails are put into place in the future, because (needless to say) this type of unnecessary technological misstep could ruin someone’s scene/night.

Final thoughts

I think the BeMoreKinky app is an admirable effort to make kink more accessible to the masses – not everyone is as comfortable yapping about their deepest sexual desires as I am(!), and sometimes an external resource, like an app or a book, can be immensely useful in jumpstarting these conversations.

That being said, I worry about the perils of bringing A.I. into the bedroom with us. Even setting aside more extreme or existential concerns like A.I.-induced psychosis and environmental impact, outsourcing your scene-planning to a robot robs you of the opportunity to practice thinking (and kinking) for yourself. It distances you from your partner in an intimate arena that can otherwise feel soul-affirmingly connective. It introduces the possibility of boner-killing awkward errors, like misgendering your sweetheart or yourself due to a coding oversight. And in this case, it does all this without adding much value that couldn’t be equally gleaned by just having the guts to talk to your partner about sex.

I feel similarly about BeMoreKinky as I did about the Fifty Shades series, which is to say: I’m concerned about damage it may do and misconceptions it may propagate, but at the same time, I’m happy for the people it may help to discover themselves and their sexualities, and I deeply hope that the good ultimately outweighs the bad. Sometimes we have to make such trade-offs in our continuing efforts to, uh, be more kinky.

 

This post was sponsored, meaning I was paid to write a fair and honest review of the app. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

What Can (and Can’t) You Learn From Watching Porn?

Kate Sloan
Photo by mb. Just imagine I’m attending a porn screening in this picture, although it was actually an improv show…

There’s perpetually a firestorm of discourse about porn – whether it’s good or bad, realistic or unrealistic, helpful inspiration or misguided misinformation. Personally I think porn can teach us a lot, but people often take the wrong lessons from it. So what can you actually learn from porn, and what can’t you? Here are my thoughts on the matter; I’d love to hear yours in the comments…

 

Things you probably can’t learn from porn:

How to initiate sex

Porn scenes often dive right into the action, which is reasonable – if you’re surfing a porn website, you might very well have one hand down your pants already! But in real life, often you have to (or want to) ease into sex much more gradually, to ensure everyone’s ongoing comfort and consent. This is especially true if you and/or your partner have “responsive desire” (to borrow a term from sexologist Emily Nagoski), in which case initiation might involve slow-burn activities like flirting on a dinner date, making out on the couch, or cuddling naked in bed. If you’re not sure how your partner prefers sex to be initiated, talk it over with them!

Sexual techniques your partner(s) will like

While some porn purports to be educational (and some actually is!), often you’re just seeing techniques that are designed to be visually stimulating, which may or may not actually feel good to the people involved. For instance, when someone is going down on me, I prefer a suction-based technique where my clit is inside someone’s mouth for a lot of the time, but that doesn’t always translate well to porn because you can’t see exactly what they’re doing with their tongue in there! You can certainly look to porn for inspo, but it’s not an instruction manual – for details on how to please your specific partner, you’ll need to ask them yourself, and/or try things out and see what they respond to.

How to do aftercare

I’ve almost never seen aftercare represented in porn, which makes sense – for a lot of us, our post-porn-watching ‘aftercare’ is just closing our laptop and moving on with our day/night! But in real life, whether the sex you’re having is kinky or vanilla, most people appreciate a calming comedown of some sort. Cuddling is a common aftercare staple, for instance, as is pillow talk about the sex you just had. Don’t forget water and a little snack if you need one – sex can be quite a workout sometimes!

 

Things you actually can learn from porn:

Dirty talk skills

Porn stars are, quite literally, pro-level dirty-talkers. It’s a skill well worth learning, given that 91% of people are turned on by it! You don’t have to copy the exact phrases and cadence of your favorite porn stars, but you can use their style as inspiration when developing your own. Whether your roadblock to dirty talk is sexual shame, nervousness, or just not knowing what to say, it can help to listen to porn stars’ salacious parlance and maybe even practice repeating aloud the things they say, so you get used to the way filthy words feel in your mouth.

What high levels of arousal feel like for you

Not everyone struggles with this, but some people experience what’s called “arousal non-concordance”: a frustrating mismatch between your levels of physical and mental arousal. There are many reasons this can occur; for me, I know that I’m prone to dissociation from my body due to trauma, so I sometimes don’t even notice that I’ve gotten physically turned on – or, on the flipside, I might have a mental desire for sex while feeling frustratingly little physical arousal. Porn can be helpful in this regard, because it helps me reach high arousal levels both physically and mentally while alone in the privacy of my room – and the more familiar I become with how that arousal feels in my body and brain, the easier it is for me to recognize it and foster it with partners.

New stuff you might want to try

You can read about certain kinky proclivities all day long, but it may not give you a sense of whether you’d actually enjoy doing those things. Porn, on the other hand – especially the hyper-realism of VR porn (see all studios here for more on that) – can be more vivid and thus more illuminating. There are lots of kinky things I didn’t quite “get” until I saw them done in porn, at which point I wanted to try them out ASAP!

 

What have you learned from porn, dear readers? Feel free to let me know in the comments!

 

This post contains a sponsored link. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

What to Pack for a Sex Getaway

Kate Sloan

The weather outside is dull and grey, and it has me thinking about potential trips to far-flung locales – for lounging on the beach and sipping daiquiris over a good book, sure, but also for sexy adventures with beloved beaux. Sex in a hotel bed (or even on an Airbnb pull-out couch) just hits different, y’know?

I can’t tell you exactly what to bring with you on a horny holiday, since you know your own sexual needs best… but here’s a list of things I think most sexually active people would benefit from having in their suitcase on such a jaunt, whether you’re headed to a swingers’ resort in Cancún, a luxury escort agency in Vienna, or even just a hotel in your own hometown. Let me know in the comments if there’s anything crucial I missed!

1-2 lubes

Lube is a must-have for pretty much everyone. No matter what type(s) of sex or masturbation you get into, lube is likely to make it feel a whole lot more pleasurable and comfortable.

On a typical trip, I tend to pack two lubes: a water-based option (ideally Sutil Rich or Sliquid Sassy), which I use with most sex toys and for most types of penetration, and a silicone-based option (ideally Uberlube), which is better suited for things like handjobs and clitoral masturbation. However, if I only had the space for one lube, I’d tend to go water-based, since it’s compatible with all types of sex toys and safer sex supplies. Speaking of which…

Safer sex supplies

I always bring condoms with me on my sexy travels; they’re my go-to contraceptive method, since hormonal birth control fucks with my mental health too bad, and they’re also just good to have around. If I was attending an orgy/gangbang or somesuch, I might bring a few different size options with me, because I’m cum-siderate like that! You might also consider packing dental dams, latex/nitrile gloves, and/or finger cots, depending on your needs/desires.

A small vibrator + a big vibrator

Suitcase space doesn’t always allow for this, but in an ideal world, I would always be able to pack both a Magic Wand Rechargeable and a smaller, more pinpointed vibe like the We-Vibe Tango X. Wands are super versatile; I love using them on partners of various genders/anatomies, as well as on myself, particularly when travel exhaustion has lowered my sensitivity. But it’s also nice to have a more petite vibrator on hand for when I’m craving that sensation instead.

Some vibrators have a travel lock function, which smartly ensures that the vibrations won’t turn on in transit, startling TSA agents and taxicab drivers alike. I try to bring at least one vibe that’s waterproof, because jerking off in a hotel bathtub is the height of luxury, if you ask me! Don’t forget to pack the charger(s) for your vibrator(s) as well, if they’re rechargeable, since a dead vibe sucks just as much in a beautiful destination as it does in your bed at home.

Something penetrative

If you or your partner(s) are into penetration, you’re probably gonna want to bring a dildo, butt plug, insertable vibrator, or some other type of penetrative toy with you. Think about which internal spot(s) you most often like to target, and pack accordingly. I’ll often bring one realistic silicone dildo that hits my A-spot and one firmer dildo that hits my G-spot, just to cover my bases. To be on the safe side, probably leave any glass toys at home (or do as I do and pack them wrapped in multiple layers of socks).

1-2 kinky sensory toys

If you are kinky comme moi, you may want to toss a couple of sensory-play items into your suitcase incase the mood strikes. I’ll often bring a small wooden bat or paddle for impact play, and maybe something like this dragon claw for light sadomasochism. That being said, your hands are great kink toys in and of themselves, capable of slapping, scratching, etc., so you may not need any extra equipment in this category!

A few kinky pervertibles

I bring an eye mask with me every time I travel, to help block out light so I can sleep better – but it also works a treat as a blindfold for kinky sex. Likewise, scarves and neckties can double as bondage gear, and a wooden hairbrush makes a killer impact implement. When suitcase space is at a premium, you might as well make the most of every item you bring!

Gum, mints, etc.

Self-explanatory! Sometimes I’ll also bring cough drops along, just incase. Trying to have an intimate date-y conversation in a bar or restaurant can be tricky when your throat is sore… as can giving head!

Hair elastics & bobby pins

Stray hairs in my mouth during oral sex are the bane of my existence. Fuck off and let me do what I do best!!

Headphones

Useful if you plan on watching porn and don’t want to risk disturbing the people in the next room… but also great if you, like me, sometimes have phone sex while staying in hotels. Headphones allow you to put your phone down, freeing up your hands for… other things.

Aftercare snacks

I usually pick these up at a duty-free shop once I’ve gone through airport security, but you can also get ’em at a hotel gift shop or pretty much anywhere. Chocolate, candy, chips, etc. are all great choices. It’s especially fun to get regional snacks that are only available wherever you’re staying!

 

What else do you think is important to bring on a sexy vacation?

 

This post contains a sponsored link. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

5 Things I Love About Rope Bondage

Kate Sloan

I’ve got rope on the brain today. Maybe it’s because this world is noisier and more chaotic than ever, but I’m craving the peace and quiet of a good rope session, whether I’m the one being tied up or the one doing the tying.

It’s a beautiful kinky art form with a rich history. Here’s a little knowledge gleaned from my personal history with rope – my top 5 favorite things about it!

 

It’s peaceful & meditative

Like I mentioned up top, I find rope bondage to be a deeply calming activity. As a top, it can be meditative to focus carefully on the tie(s) you’re doing, adjusting and re-adjusting as you go. As a bottom, I enjoy being focused on like that, and often find that my mind wanders in a blissfully aimless way during a rope scene, similarly to how it does during meditation, yoga, or a quiet sunset walk. Sharing that peaceful connection with a partner is wonderful, but I can find that serenity even when I’m tying myself. And on that note…

 

It can be a shared activity or a solo one

This isn’t true of all kinks – and indeed, depending on your physical and emotional needs, it may not even be true of rope for you – but I’ve always found that rope is something I enjoy doing on my own just as much as with a partner.

You can look up self-tie tutorials on YouTube or in rope bondage books written by educators you trust (Midori is a personal fave) and view a solo session as practicing on yourself, or as reconnecting with the deepest parts of yourself psychologically, the ones you keep quietly buried most of the time.

 

Everyone does it a little differently

There are several reasons I refer to rope bondage as an art form, rather than just a kink activity – and one way this is true is that each rope bondage tie is its own unique creation, even if you’re following along with a pre-existing pattern. Each person – from my cavalcade of ex-boyfriends to Berlin dungeon-dwellers to New Zealand escorts – will bring a slightly different flavor and approach to how they tie.

Some of my partners have gotten a little sadistic with it, rubbing the rope roughly along my skin to leave bitey burn marks in its wake. Some have been soothing and smooth, occasionally muttering some comforting reassurance in my ear. Some have narrated aloud throughout the scene, explaining what they’re doing, so our session is both sensual and educational. You can tell a lot about somebody by how they tie you up!

 

Being restrained is fucking hot

This might be the most obvious/common reason to do rope bondage, but it’s worth mentioning nonetheless! Bondage is one of my major kinks, and I tend to get wildly wet when tied up by someone I’m attracted to. The trust involved is intoxicating, the surrender can be delicious, and there can also be a frisson of objectification kink involved in rope, if I start to feel more like an intricate art project my top is perfecting than like a person (🔥).

For this reason, I’ve often found rope bondage to be good foreplay for me – although it’s also perfectly fine if my top has to peace out after we finish our aftercare, because I can always jerk off to the memory of the scene! (I used to have a bondage-focused FWB and he would occasionally bring me pizza, tie me up, cuddle me for a while, and then leave. Honestly ideal in many ways…!)

 

You usually get a nice souvenir…

…whether it’s a photo that your top snaps of the finished tie in all its glory, or some light rope burns on your skin, or maybe even a slight lingering soreness in certain muscles from holding still for a long time. Of course, you should seek medical attention if any such “souvenirs” become worrisome – like if you feel tingling from cut-off circulation anywhere, or think an abrasion might be getting infected – but for the most part, I’ve found rope to be a low-risk activity when done with a well-informed top, and I love seeing evidence of yesterday’s scene on my skin. 🥰

 

Fellow rope lovers, what are your favorite things about it?

 

This post contains a sponsored link. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

Review: Ppunson Tom 36-lb. realistic male torso sex doll

Kate Sloan
(My hickey in this photo is not from Tom 😉)

“What the fuck is this huge box?!??!?”

That’s what I shouted when the Ppunson 36-lb. realistic male torso sex doll arrived at my apartment. (Phew, his name is a mouthful. Just like his dick.)

You see, my email inbox can be a chaotic place, and I hadn’t realized Ppunson had decided to move ahead with a review, so I was genuinely baffled. “It’s probably a sex doll, right?” said my wife with a shrug. “I mean, what else would be this big?”

Indeed, when I tore open the box (and the multiple smaller boxes therein, matryoshka-style), I discovered a lifelike (though not exactly life-sized) sex doll with an enormous penis. My life is very weird. Let’s talk about this Ppunson doll. He’s referred to by the name “Tom” on the Ppunson website, so I’ll be referring to him as such in this review.

The day Tom arrived (photo by mb) – I am 5’4″, for reference!

Tech specs

Before we proceed, a few technical details on this barrel-chested marvel of sexy engineering:

  • Weight: Tom weighs 36 lbs, which is a little bit heavier than the dick-wielding sex doll I previously reviewed, the Tantaly Mark (33.6 lbs).
  • Height & width: Tom measures about 26 inches tall, from the bottom of his cut-off thighs to the top of his cut-off neck. He’s 29 inches wide at his widest point, which is his hips.
  • Dick: Tom’s dick is 8 inches long, and its widest diameter is about 1.6 inches.
  • Materials: Tom is made of thermoplastic elastomer (TPE), a squishy, lifelike, porous material. It also contains a flexible skeleton that allows it to be positioned in various ways.
  • Hole: Tom has a fuckable butthole, which goes 5 inches deep and is pleasantly textured like the inside of a Fleshlight. I don’t have a dick so I wasn’t able to test this aspect of the toy.
At rest in my office

Things I like about the Ppunson Tom:

  • Good dick firmness: When I reviewed a different sex doll previously, my top complaint was that its dick was so squishy I could hardly feel it inside me – but Tom has no such issues. Its dick is a nice blend of firm-versus-soft, akin to something like VixSkin – it’s not dual-density, but the bendable metal core feels firmer than the TPE surrounding it, which almost makes it feel dual-density. Orgasming with this doll’s dick inside me is satisfying and intense, because I can feel it being rhythmically squeezed like a stress ball with every vaginal contraction.
  • Firm chest is good for leverage: The other sex doll I’ve tried was so squishy that my fist would sink unsettlingly into its chest if I tried to push on that area for leverage while riding it, the way I often do when riding human partners. The Tom, by comparison, has a firmer body overall, so it actually holds its shape when I lean on it, and is therefore easier to ride.
  • Angle-adjustable dick: While the shape/curve of the dick can’t be altered and is always ultra-straight (of which more below), the angle at which it juts out from the doll’s body can be adjusted, which makes this doll a lot more versatile than most. For example, when I got too tired to keep riding Tom’s dick, I was able to lie down with my legs draped over his chest (sort of like this) and bend his dick downward so it would fit inside me. I could still grind up and down on his dick, but this position gave me a lot more room to use a vibrator on my clit, and was also a lot comfier for me, so I appreciated Tom’s phallic flexibility.
  • Beautiful realistic details: I wrote “pretty nipples” in my testing notes, and it’s true, they are quite pretty. Granted, I was probably only checking them out because the doll has no head/face so I had little else to look at while riding him, but still – I think most people are more visually oriented than I am, and would therefore appreciate these little touches! Tom’s dick is also veiny in a realistically droolworthy way, and his balls look remarkably real too.
  • Reasonably priced: Tom currently retails for $187 USD, less than half the price of the similar Tantaly doll I previously tested. It’s kind of wild that you can get a whole poseable torso, complete with fuckable butt and rideable dick, for less than the price of a high-end wand vibrator.
Obligatory dick-‘n’-balls close-up

Things I don’t like about the Ppunson Tom:

  • Porous material: Lots of sex dolls, including this one, are made out of porous materials like TPE or TPR – which is understandable, since it would presumably be cost-prohibitive to make a toy this large out of silicone – but it poses a number of problems, namely:
    • Hygiene issues: Porous materials can never be entirely sanitized, so once you’ve gotten your bodily fluids on/in this doll, you shouldn’t share it with anyone else unless you’re okay with being fluid-bonded with them. (For this reason, I used a condom on Tom’s dick while testing it, because a friend wants to adopt him after I’m done with my review.)
    • Durability: Porous materials don’t last as long as non-porous ones before they start to smell weird or fall apart, so you may need to replace your doll in a few years or so, depending on how often you use it and how well you take care of it.
    • Upkeep necessary: TPE sometimes starts to feel sticky/tacky and needs to be sprinkled with cornstarch after cleaning to maintain its smooth, soft texture. More upkeep tips here.
    • No silicone- or oil-based lubes: You can only use water-based lubes with this doll, which don’t last as long as alternatives and may therefore need to be reapplied more often.
    • Easily stained: Ppunson warns that you shouldn’t wear dark-colored or brand-new clothing when using your doll (and likewise shouldn’t dress the doll in anything brand-new or dark-colored), as clothing dyes can stain the porous material.
  • Dick too straight: Why don’t more sex doll companies make dolls with a curved dick?! I guess maybe they want the toy to be adaptable to various different positions, and a good curve for the missionary position is different from a good curve for doggie-style, for instance… but I found Tom’s dick to be so straight that it kept painfully poking me in the cervix, and I had to be careful about positioning to get it anywhere near my A-spot.
  • Bulky, heavy, hard to clean: As is standard for sex dolls, cleaning this guy is a rigamarole. Generally you’re gonna have to put him in a bathtub or shower to wash him, especially if you make use of his butthole – and I’m rarely in the mood to lug around 36 pounds of dead weight when I’ve just jerked off! It’s also obviously hard to store something this big, especially in a small apartment (under the bed is often a good spot).
  • Uncomfortable-looking back arch: I’m sure plenty of gay men (among others) would appreciate Tom’s impressive back arch when using him from behind, but I was mostly riding his dick, and every time I looked at his elaborately arched back, I couldn’t help but think, “Yikes, that looks uncomfortable,” which took me out of the moment a little.
  • No storage case: The Tom doll doesn’t come with any kind of carrying case or storage bag, which is annoying, especially given how easy it is to stain TPE and how hard it is to carry this thing around. Sure, you could keep it in one of the cardboard boxes it came in, but that’s not particularly protective and certainly not sexy, unless you’ve got a corrugation fetish!
  • Only one skin tone: Unfortunately this is pretty common in the realm of sex dolls, but this doll is only available in a Caucasian skin tone. So far as I can tell, that’s true of all the other Ppunson dolls, too.
This doll’s got cake 🍰

Final thoughts

A lot of the problems I have with the Ppunson Tom are problems I have with sex dolls in general: it’s heavy and bulky, annoying to clean, and made of a porous material. You’d be hard-pressed to find a sex doll that doesn’t have these drawbacks, especially for less than $300.

Indeed, Tom‘s $187 price tag makes me inclined to forgive most of his flaws. He costs less than half what my last big-dicked sex doll did, but his cock feels better inside me, he’s easier to use in various positions, and I find him more visually appealing than that other doll. I do wish that his dick wasn’t so straight, and that his spine wasn’t so alarmingly contorted, but overall, I’ve enjoyed testing him. Thanks to Ppunson for surprise-sending me this nude cutie – he’s one of the better uninvited guests I’ve had in a while!

 

This post was sponsored, meaning I was paid to write a fair and honest review of this product. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.