Curious? Here are the answers to some questions I’m asked a lot!
What’s your favorite sex toy?
I love everything that has a heart next to it on my toybox page – but especially the Eroscillator, Double Trouble, Magic Wand Rechargeable, Eleven, Tango X, Night King, Bandit, and Sila.
How did you get started as a sex writer/podcaster?
The short version: I had always been a sex nerd, ever since childhood. When I took a year off after high school to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, I applied for a job working at a sex shop. Although I didn’t end up getting the job, in preparing for a potential interview I discovered sex toy review blogs, and thought, “Hey, I could do that!” I started this blog, and the rest is history.
If you want the long version, you can read this timeline of my writing career.
How many sex toys do you own?
Currently somewhere in the neighborhood of 300-350. The numbers fluctuate because sometimes I give toys away to friends (after sanitizing them, of course).
What equipment do you use for writing/podcasting/music?
Click here for the full list of hardware and software I use to do my work.
What’s your relationship status? / Who are you dating? / How did you meet your partner(s)?
I am polyamorously married to my beautiful wife, mb. She is a software developer, podcaster, and poet, among other things. We met on Twitter, back when it was still called Twitter. She was a fan of my work, and responded to a tweet of mine about sex toy reviews; after that, we started DMing, then went for coffee when I happened to be visiting her city a few weeks later. There was an immediate attraction, which kicked off an intense courtship and long-distance relationship. We’ve been by each other’s sides (emotionally if not always literally) through so much: my trauma therapy process, her gender transition, my books’ launches, and more. We were finally able to move in together in 2025, when the U.S. government granted me my green card. You can read more of our love story in this post about our first date, as well as in my wife’s tag. 💙
If you’d like to date me and you think we’d be an exceptionally good match, feel free to fill out my Date Me form and I’ll get back to you if I agree with you 😘
Will you sext with me/send me nudes for free?
No. Here are some sexy photos, videos and audios of me that you can buy, though.