As scads of people get vaccinated, and lockdowns start to lift in response, I’m seeing more and more jokes on social media about options for group sex opening up as well. For friends of mine whose lives ordinarily contain a high concentration of threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, the pandemic has brought on a particular type of group-oriented touch starvation that many are hoping to rectify as soon as it’s safe to do so.
But I’m also seeing a common sentiment among these folks that despite their previous willingness to jump into such activities (and more power to ’em), they’re nonetheless feeling hesitant to wade back into those risky waters when we’ve spent the past year avoiding other people like… well… the plague. Sure, depending on your vaccine status, it may or may not be medically okay for you to go hook up with a handful of other vaxxed folks who you find on dating sites like Tinder for Couples, but will it feel okay psychologically just yet? Maybe not. And that’s quite reasonable!
For anyone who’s unable, unwilling, or just hesitant to hop back into group sex, but still craves it, here are some suggestions for replicating it without the actual “group” part…
1. Fantasize. I’m sure you’ve been doing this already if you’re orgiastically inclined! Break out your filthiest mental images and imaginings, during either masturbation or partnered sex. It’ll amp up your excitement, plus studies show we’re better equipped to handle situations we’ve already visualized and practiced in our minds.
2. Use sex toys. A realistic dildo can help you feel like there’s another dick in the room; a full-lipped Fleshlight can feel like an additional mouth has joined the chat; hell, if you’re lucky enough to own a sex doll, you can dress it up (or strip it down) to create the sense of another horny person’s presence. Toys aren’t the same as another human being, naturally, but they’re a decent stopgap measure for the time being.
3. Incorporate bondage and sensory deprivation. If you’re tied down and can’t see what’s happening, it’s much easier to suspend your disbelief and go along with a fantasy that someone else is in the room with you. Maybe your partner could put on some group-sex porn to create a sexy sonic backdrop for your scene, and then silently pretend to be a near-stranger touching you while you squirm and writhe.
4. Talk dirty about it. Whether in person, over the phone, or via text, you can share fantasies with a partner (or hopeful future partner!) about what you’d like to do in a group scenario. This, again, is a lovely way to ponder your desires so you’ll be better equipped to pursue them when it’s safe to do so – and perhaps to commiserate with someone who is feeling similarly orgy-hungry!
5. Zoom with friends. If you’re a kinky pervert, you probably have friends who are too, or at least online acquaintances. See if they’re missing group sex as much as you are; maybe they’d be up for a Zoom orgy, Skype threesome, friendly fuck over FaceTime, etc.
6. Put on a cam show. For some people, much of group sex’s appeal comes from its exhibitionistic qualities. If performing for others is the main thing you’re missing, you can always hop onto a cam site (such as tinderforcouples.org, which has a live cam chat feature) and show off for adoring strangers. Just be sure to cover your face and any identifying tattoos, birthmarks, etc. if you want to protect your privacy.
Folks who are missing group sex, what has helped you deal with this craving during the pandemic?
This post was sponsored. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.