For many years I dated people who had a prostate but had no desire to touch it or have partners touch it. There’s nothing wrong with that – it’s their butt and they can do with it as they please! – but it does make me extra appreciative that both of my current ongoing partners are very open in that regard. I’ve gotten to experiment more with prostate stimulation over the past year than I had previously done in my entire life!
With that in mind, here are 5 cool things you can do with a prostate massager, like the Lelo Hugo, if you’re so inclined…
Combine it with a blowjob. A classic. I hear that having a mouth on your dick and some vibration on your prostate can be an ecstatic sensation. If you are the person giving said BJ, remember that you don’t just have to let the vibrator do its thing while staying static; you can jostle it around, press it up into the prostate, or even move it in and out a little, depending on what your partner prefers. This can add a lot to the proceedings!
Wear it out in public. Provided your vibe is butt plug-esque in that it can stay put comfortably once it’s inside you – and provided, too, that it has a flared base, as all anal toys should – you can wear it while out and about, with the vibrations turned on or left off. This can create a sense of anticipation for some more intense play later on, once you’re in private, or it can be a delight all on its own. Remote-controlled vibrators are particularly useful for this application!
Use it externally. A well-designed prostate massager will have fairly strong, rumbly vibrations, in order to stimulate the somewhat buried prostate. So it follows that those excellent vibrations could feel good on your external bits, too. Try applying the vibe to your perineum, anal opening, or balls while your dick is being stimulated. This could make great “foreplay” for anal penetration, or if it’s just not a penetrative kind of day, you can get your rocks off without any insertion at all!
Spice up a mundane task. Wearing an anal vibrator is a pretty attention-absorbing experience, so it can be an exciting challenge to try to do something else while those vibrations are pulling your focus. Write a blog post (gulp), clean your room, do your laundry, shop for groceries… There are few pursuits that couldn’t be improved by something buzzing in your ass, if that’s a sensation you enjoy.
Play an orgasm denial game. Most people can’t come from prostate stimulation alone, but it sure can be fun to try. Set yourself the challenge of stimulating yourself only with the prostate toy inside you – no external stimulation allowed – for some pre-decided period of time. You can play with a partner or by yourself, steadily increasing the vibration strength (and the mental stimulation you’re getting from porn, erotica, or your partner) until you just can’t take it anymore.
What are your fave things to do with prostate massagers?
This post was sponsored. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.
My partner likes a lot of things about the Loki: the pretty blue color, the excellent motor, the many varying speeds, the prostate-targeting shape, the travel lock, the silky silicone, and the size, which he describes as “really, really perfect: don’t need a lot of warmup but feels full.”
I spent some time in a bridal shop a couple years ago when I joined my friend’s wedding party. While I was trying on bridesmaid dresses – which are pretty much designed to make the wearer look unremarkable and plain, but in a pretty way – my friend kept swanning in and out of the dressing room in one gorgeous gown after another, commanding the room. I teared up almost every time she emerged in a new dress, because the effect of seeing someone you love – or even someone you hardly know! – in a dress that culturally weighted is powerful.