It’s that time again, friends! Time for me to comb through my sex spreadsheet, crunch some numbers, and present you with a statistical portrait of my sex life this year. (Previously: 2020, 2019, 2018.)
Before we jump into those juicy juicy stats (!), I just wanted to say that I’ve very much appreciated your readership this year and that I hope you have a lovely New Year’s Eve, however you’re celebrating it, and a 2022 that’s as good as one can reasonably expect. ❤️
Overview
- In 2021, I had partnered sex 154 times.
- This works out to an average of 12.83 times per month, 2.96 times per week, and 0.42 times per day.
- If you calculate the above based only on when me and my partner were physically together this year (which was 6.75 months out of 12), we had sex an average of 22.81 times per month, 4.39 times per week, and 0.76 times per day.
- I had 139 orgasms from in-person partnered sex.
- My partner had 118 orgasms from in-person partnered sex. That lower number is mostly due to time they spent in chastity.
- An incomplete list, in alphabetical order, of kinks that were part of my sex life this year: biting, chastity, cock and ball torture, daddy dom/little girl roleplay, financial domination, forced orgasms, hypnosis, impact play, intoxication play, medical play, orgasm control, orgasm denial, roleplay, ruined orgasms, sadomasochism, scratching, sensory deprivation, sleepy sex, spanking, temperature play.
Compared to last year:
- I had 23% less sex (which makes sense because my partner and I spent about 16% less time physically together this year than last year).
- I had an orgasm 90.26% of the times I had sex, about the same as last year (90.5%).
- My partner had an orgasm 76.62% of the times we had sex versus 89% last year – again, because of us doing chastity play.
- I only had 1 sexual partner this year, versus last year when I did BJ porn with someone other than my spouse so I had 2.
Locations
- I had sex in 4 different locations this year, same as last year.
- Those included my place, my spouse’s place, a relative’s place, and the 6 Columbus hotel in New York City where we stayed for my birthday weekend.
- I had a higher orgasm incidence rate at my own apartment (100%) than at Matt’s apartment (89.51%) but that’s mostly just because I had way more sex at Matt’s apartment (143 times versus 8 times) so there were way more chances for me to be too sleepy/tipsy/achy to get off.
Highs & lows
- My most sexually active month was October (27 times), though all of the months we spent entirely together had a similar number (20-26).
- My least sexually active months were, of course, the ones when I wasn’t with Matt and therefore had sex 0 times (May, June, July, and September).
- The most times I had sex in one day was twice, which happened several times.
- I didn’t have multiple orgasms during any sessions this year because my body seems to be increasingly incapable of doing so, but my partner had more than one orgasm in a session at least 3 times.
Sex toys
- My most-used vibrators during partnered sex this year were the Eroscillator (123 times), Magic Wand Rechargeable (14 times), and We-Vibe Tango X (4 times).
- My most-used dildos during partnered sex this year were the Vixen Creations Bandit (30 times), Njoy Eleven (21 times), and New York Toy Collective Carter (19 times).
- My most-used kink toys during partnered sex were my Nidra Deep Rest blindfold (53 times), tweezers (5 times), and Glittertops custom paddle and London Tanners Domestic Discipline strap (tied at 3 times each).
Phone sex
- In 2021, I had phone sex 71 times, versus 122 last year.
- That means that while we were physically apart (which was 5.25 months out of 12), we had phone sex 13.52 times per month, 3.26 times per week, and 0.47 times per day.
- I didn’t keep track of orgasm rates during phone sex this year because I couldn’t be bothered, but we both came the vast majority of times, Matt’s stints in chastity being the main exceptions.
- Comparing our phone sex numbers to our IRL sex numbers, phone sex was 31.55% of my sex life this year, compared to 37.9% last year.
- The total amount of sex sessions I had this year (IRL sex + phone sex) was 225.
- That works out to 18.75 times per month, 4.33 times per week, and 0.62 times per day.
Some of the funniest/oddest things in the “Notes” field of my sex spreadsheet this year:
- New year’s spanking
- Pearl necklace findom
- I cried HARD and a LOT
- Strap-on handjob trance
- Squirted all over their dick
- Very good, lots of squirting
- “Made” them come in 20 seconds
- Punched me to show their love for me
And there you have it! Another year of nerdy stats. Did you track your sex life this year? What did you discover?