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A Beginner’s Guide to My Favorite Vibrator Ever, the Eroscillator

Kate Sloan

When you’ve been a sex toy reviewer for as long as I have, there’s one question you get asked a lot: “What’s your favorite toy?”

It’s a fair question, not only because one might glean some toy recommendations from the answer, but also because, in order to find my reviews most useful, a reader needs to have some idea of the types of toys I normally like, so they can try to figure out if my tastes are aligned with their own. That’s why, for instance, there’s hearts next to toys I love on my Toybox page, and there’s a section at the end of my About page where I list my absolute faves in some key categories.

But I have to admit: there is one specific toy which I can call my favorite of all time, without reservation. That toy is the Eroscillator.

 

What is the Eroscillator, and why is it my all-time favorite sex toy?

Me and this toy go way back. I wanted it from the moment I heard it discussed on an episode of the Sex is Fun podcast, probably sometime around 2005. In fact, I wanted it so bad that it was one of the very first toys I requested to review when I started this blog in 2012.

I had tried a handful of other vibrators by that point – but even still, I knew, from the very first time I used the Eroscillator, that this one was different. Famously, it doesn’t technically vibrate – it oscillates. To me (and evidently to many other Eroscillator fans), this produces a feeling that is much deeper, more pleasurable, and more satisfying than standard vibration, because of the “rumbliness”/depth of the oscillations.

Needless to say, when a vibrator consistently produces more pleasure and better orgasms than any other, it’s gonna make its way into my regular rotation – and boy howdy, has it! I’m not exaggerating when I say that there has been an Eroscillator in/on my nightstand at all times since I got my first one, which was over 12 years ago. I’ve owned a few of them over the years, always replacing mine immediately when it broke (more on that later), because it’s absolutely integral to my sex life, both solo and partnered. Nothing else makes me come as hard, or as consistently. And since I’m a pretty clit-focused gal, this isn’t just my favorite vibrator ever – it’s my favorite sex toy, period.

Aside from the wildly good orgasms, here are a few other notable benefits of the Eroscillator:

  • For me at least, it doesn’t cause any of the temporary desensitization/numbing that is common with vibrators, especially buzzy/high-pitched ones. This means I can use it for as long as I want and it’ll still feel good. This also makes it easier for me to orgasm again later, if I want to, since my sensitivity has been preserved.
  • Its long and slim shape makes it possible to use during PIV or strap-on sex, even in (a slightly adapted) missionary position.
  • I find its slider-style control panel to be easier and more intuitive to use than traditional buttons.
  • It’s remarkably quiet for a vibrator, especially when it’s actually pressed against your body.
  • Like many other vibes, it can be used on penises! Highly recommend getting someone off by holding the tip of the Eroscillator against their frenulum; it’s a good time.

 

Which Eroscillator is best?

There are two different Eroscillator models:

  • The Eroscillator 2 is the base model. It was the first one I owned, and it served me well for many years. I’d recommend it for people who have never used a vibrator before and/or people who would consider their clitoral sensitivity to be medium-to-high.
  • For those who like a bit more power, there’s the Eroscillator Top Deluxe, my current beloved. It’s a bit pricier, but IMO the extra power is absolutely worth it. Even on days when my sensitivity has been lowered by alcohol, fatigue, recent orgasms/vibrator usage, or other factors, this toy can get me off no problem like 99% of the time. (For that other 1%, I’d probably bust out the Magic Wand.)

Further, when you buy an Eroscillator, you’ll have to decide which attachments you want – there are various combo sets available, some of which come with fewer attachments than others. These attachments can be easily swapped out to give you a variety of sensations, but to be honest, there are only two attachments I ever use:

  • The Ultra Soft Finger Tip is an absolute must-have. (Legendary masturbation coach Betty Dodson agreed with me, if I recall correctly, although I can’t seem to find the video anymore where she said so.) It’s squishy, and softens the oscillations somewhat, so they don’t feel as jarring. I find it easy to maneuver, and its shape gives you a few different sensation options – try using the edge versus the side of it on your clit, for instance. Many Eroscillator combos come with this attachment, but if yours doesn’t, I highly recommend picking one up. It’s effectively the only attachment I use.
  • Literally maybe once every 5 years, I will use the G-Point attachment instead of the Finger Tip one. I only do this when my sensitivity has been so dramatically lowered for some reason that the Finger Tip attachment doesn’t feel stimulating enough.

 

How to use it

If I estimate, conservatively, that I have had an average of 2 orgasms per week with the Eroscillator for the 12 years I’ve owned one, that would mean that I’ve had over 1,200 orgasms with this thing. I may not have quite hit my Malcolm Gladwell 10,000 hours yet, but I’m getting there! So, suffice it to say, I think I’m qualified to advise you on how best to use this toy…

  • Luuuuube: You’ve heard this song before – lube is good, and more lube is better! I notice a big difference in sensation between a lubed vs. unlubed Eroscillator attachment; lubed is way more enjoyable. You’ll probably want to use a thick water-based one like Sutil Rich, because silicone-based lubes are incompatible with Eroscillator attachments. Reapply as needed.
  • Placement: As with any vibrator, I think most people will benefit from starting with gentle, indirect contact, to warm up the genital tissues, before moving on to more direct stimulation. (Check out my post about indirect clit stim techniques for more on that.) When I use my Eroscillator, I often move it around to stimulate my clit from different angles, through the outer or inner labia, etc. until I’m ready to focus the oscillations more directly on my clit.
  • Pressure: One thing you might notice pretty quickly about the Eroscillator is that its oscillations weaken when you apply pressure. It took me some time to get used to this initially, but now, I actually use it to my benefit: the toy has only three speeds, but I can press it harder against my body to make a speed feel weaker, and then gradually lift off the pressure as I want it stronger. It’s more intuitive than it may sound, I swear, although it may take some practice.

 

Quirks but not dealbreakers (for me, anyway)

Look, I’m gonna level with ya – this toy has a lot of drawbacks, as you can already see from the length of the list below! In a way, though, I think it speaks well of the toy that it’s still my very favorite, despite all these flaws… It really is just because it gives me better orgasms than any other toy, and, as with human beings, many sins can be forgiven if you make someone come real hard… 😂

But, okay, yes, let’s talk about the many downsides of the Eroscillator:

  • Some people find that the oscillations just don’t feel strong enough for them. If you know you need/want a lot of power, I’d recommend something like a Magic Wand Rechargeable or a Doxy over the Eroscillator. For reference, I’m somebody who typically sticks to the first and second speeds of the MWR, and I find the Eroscillator Top Deluxe plenty strong enough to get me off.
  • As described above, its oscillations weaken when pressure is applied – and while I’ve learned to work with this quirk, rather than against it, this toy isn’t suitable for someone who loves/needs to apply pressure with their vibrators (unless you’re trying to wean yourself off of doing that for some reason).
  • Since oscillation is somewhat subtler than standard vibration, I find that the Eroscillator’s sensations get drowned out if I try to use a vibrating dildo, insertable vibrator, etc. at the same time. That said, good god does this thing ever feel good paired with a (non-vibrating) dildo. The Eroscillator + Pure Wand combo, in particular, nearly makes me black out every time from the intensity 😂
  • It’s expensive!! The cheapest model, which comes with only one attachment, is $119. If you throw the Finger Tip attachment in your cart as well (which you should), it costs a hard-to-swallow $39.95 on its own, and brings the total up to $159. For those with a larger budget or who crave more power, the stronger model comes with a slew of attachments (including my fave) and will run you $249 all told. Worth noting, perhaps: While I didn’t pay for my first two Eroscillators because they were review units from retailers, I did pay full-price for my third one, because I really do love it that much, and the frequency with which I use it more than justifies the price tag for me. But I get that it’s a pretty huge expenditure for a sex toy.
  • On that note, the reason I’ve owned a few different Eroscillators is that mine have sometimes broken. There’s a plastic “cone” that covers the juncture between the body of the toy and its attachment, and eventually the small piece of plastic inside it that holds it in place will break off somehow, which causes the cone to rattle around loosely during use, and can even make the control panel pop right out. Originally I thought this was unfixable, which is why I bought a whole new Eroscillator; however, the brand now sells replacement cones on their website for $21.95 each, which makes this a much cheaper fix and gives the toy a longer lifespan – better for the environment and your wallet.
  • It’s an electric/plug-in vibe, so it’s not waterproof (obviously) and you do have to stay near-ish to an outlet – although I will say that the cord is 12 feet long, which is way longer than most other vibrator cords and gives you a fair bit of leeway.
  • The attachments are made of porous materials!! That really pisses me off, especially at this price point. The Finger Tip attachment is made of “medical silicone elastomer” and the others are made of TPR. I haven’t personally noticed any ill effects of this (such as irritation or infections), but it does mean that you can’t share your Eroscillator attachments with someone unless you’re prepared to be fluid-bonded with them. The Finger Tip attachment also gets slightly discolored over time, because it’s porous.
  • A lot of people think it is very ugly. (However, I am not one of those people. I’m sure the fact that it’s given me over a thousand orgasms has something to do with that.)

 

Final thoughts

Recently I’ve been using the Magic Wand Rechargeable a lot; it’s my second favorite vibrator, for sure. But when I switched back to my beloved Eroscillator after not using it for a while, the difference between the two sensations was stark.

The Magic Wand can brute-force an orgasm out of me, in a way that sometimes feels like using a flamethrower on a birthday candle. Like: okay, we get it – overkill much?! These orgasms can be almost painful in their intensity, and leave my vulva feeling slightly numb and frazzled for a few minutes as it recovers from the onslaught of pleasure.

But the Eroscillator… Oh, wow. Some creatives say that a good ending to a story or poem or song should be “surprising but inevitable,” and that is how Eroscillator orgasms feel to me. They have a way of building and building and building before bursting into sparkly fireworks of pleasure. They’re so intense and so sudden that they tend to knock the wind out of me (to the point of making me reflexively do Lamaze-type breathing sometimes, to manage/handle the intensity of the sensation), but they’re rarely painful or uncomfortable the way a wand orgasm can be.

I’m talking a lot about orgasms here, so let me be clear that the Eroscillator feels good the whole way through the process – particularly since it doesn’t cause the same numbness other vibrators can, so I get to fully enjoy the sensations throughout any given session. But those orgasms… phew. Might need to go have another one right now…

 

This post was not sponsored; I’m just quite possibly the world’s biggest Eroscillator fangirl. You can get yours at SheVibe!

Review: Magic Wand Plus

Kate Sloan

When I interviewed Shay Martin – co-owner of Vibratex, the company that legendarily saved the Magic Wand from extinction when Hitachi wanted to pull the plug on it – for a story I was writing in 2015, she said something that sex toy makers never say. She said that in updating and modernizing the toy, she was doing her best to keep everything the same, with the exception of the problems the redesign was trying to fix (mostly, the porous foam head and the overworked motor). She said she knew she was going to receive phone calls from Magic Wand purists regardless, claiming the new toy felt different or sounded different or just was different in ways that mattered to them – so it made sense to change only what absolutely was not working – a head all too easily stained by menstrual blood or cum, a motor known to occasionally burst into flames – and leave almost everything else the exact same.

This is rare in the sex toy biz. The We-Vibe Nova 2 is a recent example of a sex toy re-release that kept the best and tossed the rest – but in general, sex toy updates tend to add bells and whistles nobody asked for (*cough* Lelo) without making the improvements that would actually excite customers (*cough* also Lelo). So, needless to say, I’ve been wanting to try the Magic Wand Plus ever since it was announced – and thanks to my pals at TheVibed.com, I finally got to!

For context, there are already two major Magic Wands to be aware of (not counting the literally hundreds, if not thousands, of knockoffs and wannabes out there): the Magic Wand Original, a plug-in 2-speed behemoth essentially identical to the original Hitachi Magic Wand except for the minor motor updates as outlined above, and the Magic Wand Rechargeable, a contemporized version that no longer chains you to an outlet and that boasts 2 extra speeds and some vibration patterns. The MWR is the better choice for the vast majority of users, because its added 2 speeds are on the lower end of the intensity spectrum, bringing it down from “HOLY FUCK” territory into something more approachable, even for a vibrator novice – but, notably, the MWR is more than twice the price of the MWO. So it’s no surprise so many horny hopefuls on a budget would go for the MWO; it was the best option that existed for them – until the Magic Wand Plus.

The MWP is the best of both worlds: it has the MWR’s nonporous silicone head and wider variety of speeds, but is only a little pricier than the MWO: $65 versus $55 on TheVibed. The trade-off is that it’s plug-in rather than rechargeable, and it doesn’t have vibration patterns. That’s it.

The more that I think about it – and the more that I use the MWP instead of my well-worn old MWR – the more I realize that those trade-offs are no big deal for me at all. I almost never use vibration patterns, and I almost never use wand vibrators anywhere that doesn’t have electrical outlet access (especially in, y’know, pandemic times). Sure, it’s great to have a travel-friendly vibe I could whip out in a bar bathroom or back alley if need be, but generally I need those vibes to be small. I can literally only think of one time that I used a wand in a situation that lacked nearby outlets, and that was during a porn shoot at a sex club – not exactly a normal set of circumstances for most people.

The combination of laziness, depression, and chronic pain also renders me chronically reticent to plug in my vibes when they run out of juice – so, despite the modernity and convenience of wireless toys, my most-used vibrators these days are ones that plug into the wall. I am just not organized or on-top-of-things enough to habitually remember to charge vibes before I need them, so electric ones are, oddly enough, often the best choice for me. (That said, though, the MWR has a brilliant feature a lot of other rechargeable toys lack: you can use it while it’s charging. The more you know…)

So, that being the case, I cannot think of a single thing I love about the Magic Wand Rechargeable that the Magic Wand Plus doesn’t also have. And it’s about half the price, which is a pretty fucking big benefit, especially right now when many people’s sex toy budget is – to say the least – constricted.

The lack of vibration patterns on the MWP freed up some space in the control panel, so Vibratex added a “minus” button. This means that you can quickly move back to the previous speed if you so desire, instead of needing to cycle through all 4 like you do on the MWR. This is a pretty small difference, unless you like to move up and down the intensity scale a lot during sessions like I do, in which case it might actually be super convenient.

I do not have Princess & the Pea-level genital discernment skills, so in discussing the more minute differences between these toys, I will defer to my friend Epiphora, who does. She says the MWP is slightly buzzier and stronger than the MWR – possibly owing to differences in motor weight – and when I really strain to pay attention, I can detect this too. But, as she also notes, the difference is most notable between the 2nd and 3rd speed, so if (like me) you tend to hang out on the lower 2 speeds, this won’t be an issue for you. (For reference, I always max out when using smaller vibes like the Tango, but the lowest 2 speeds of the MWR/MWP are more than rumbly and strong enough to get me off.)

Perhaps as a result of the minor differences in buzziness/strength, I also notice that the MWP is louder and rattlier than the MWR. But both quiet down significantly when pressed against skin and flesh, where (presumably) they will spend most of their time.

I sort of wish the MWP’s wire was a bit longer – it stretches 6 feet – but I also know that the 12-foot length of my beloved Eroscillator‘s cord gets tangled more than I would prefer, and can be more of a hindrance than a convenience at times. If your preferred sexytimes zone is more than a couple feet away from an outlet, I would suggest throwing an extension cord into your cart alongside the MWP if possible, but it’s not a huge deal. The wire also gets in my way occasionally when I’m holding the toy, but I just rotate it around until the wire juts out away from me and the annoyance is neutralized.

So what’s my verdict? The Magic Wand Plus is a genius invention. Vibratex found a way to make a blessedly more affordable version of their absolutely magnificent Magic Wand Rechargeable, without compromising on any functions that matter to me. If you care a lot about portability or patterns, then disregard this – but if all you want is beautifully strong vibrations at a decent price, I think the Magic Wand Plus is absolutely the best bang for your buck.

 

Thanks so much to TheVibed for sending me this toy to try! This review was sponsored, which means I was paid to write an honest and fair review of this toy. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

Review: Bodywand Midnight Plug-In Massager

Kate Sloan

Astute readers will recall that the quest for a rumbly, reliable, petite wand vibrator has occupied a lot of my sex toy testing time over the past year. Seeking a travel-friendly wand capable of getting me off in hotel rooms, I’ve tried colorful contenders, sleek silver selections, and rose-gold gadgets. But all of them have come up short: most often, they’re too buzzy or weak; sometimes they have mechanical problems that make them short out at crucial moments; sometimes they just don’t feel sexy enough to slot into a fantasy-like hotel tryst.

But I’m elated to announce that I’ve finally found the compact wand of my dreams: the Bodywand Midnight plug-in massager.

Sometimes I feel like Bodywand is a secret I’m keeping from the sex toy world. They just don’t seem that widely known about; they’re almost never recommended in the same breath as the Magic Wand and the Doxy. I’ve had an original plug-in Bodywand for years and it remains a staple of my collection, a failsafe for times when many other vibrators just aren’t up to snuff, because its vibrations are strong enough, rumbly enough, and it has a DIAL.

Let me tell you about the dial, because it’s a big fucking deal. The vast majority of wand vibrators – and indeed, vibrators in general – have buttons (or sometimes, infuriatingly, just one button) which you use to navigate through the various speeds and settings. This system probably works fine for most people, but my clit is easily numbed and easily overstimulated, so sometimes a too-big jump between speeds can desensitize or overload my bits before I even realize what’s happened. I almost always wish I had more granular control over vibration strength. With Bodywand, I finally fucking do.

Both this smaller Midnight edition and my older, bulkier Bodywand have a dial, and it’s a fucking godsend. I can edge up their power just the tiniest bit at a time, and slide it back down again when I need to. I can control my entire experience, second by second, with the smallest flicks of my thumb. It makes me feel empowered where a lot of vibrators leave me frustrated and defeated.

The quality of the vibrations, too, impresses me. I find them deliciously rumbly – but I should note that they’re only really rumbly for the bottom one-third to one-half of the vibration range. Friends who need more power have described these vibes as buzzy, but I tend to stay on the lower side of this vibrator’s capabilities so I only ever encounter rumbliness for the most part. Sometimes I nudge up into buzzy-land toward the end of a long session, but at that point it’s the type of buzziness that pushes me over the edge, rather than numbing me out.

This vibrator’s flexible neck works fine for me because I don’t put a lot of pressure on my clit when I use vibes, but if you do like pressure, you’ll probably find this vibrator unworkable. While we’re talking about the neck, I should also mention that the head is apparently made of thermoplastic rubber – a bummer, for sure. It would have been so easy to make it silicone and it would have improved this product substantially. Since TPR is porous, I’ll have to stick a condom on this wand if I ever want to share it with a partner I’m not fluid-bonded with, use it anally (which I wouldn’t recommend, but hey), or use it while menstruating or while getting over a vaginal infection. It’s not the biggest deal but it is annoying.

But for the most part, I’m over the moon for this vibrator. At 10″ long, it’s a reasonable size for my carry-on luggage, and also doesn’t take up much room on my nightstand when I’m using it at home. The dial makes a satisfying clicking noise when it kicks on, and gives me sublime control over my experience. The vibe being electric might inconvenience some people, but for me, it just means I don’t have to worry about batteries and charging. The head thrums faithfully against my body and gives me easy, consistent orgasms, which I appreciate all the more because so many other vibrators have utterly failed at this task.

The Bodywand Midnight massager is the best new vibe I’ve tried in a long time, and I’m sure that it and my suitcase are about to get closely acquainted.

 

Thanks so much to Bodywand for sending me this product to try!

Review: Cowgirl

Kate Sloan

What kind of person would spend $2,000 on a sex toy?

I kept wondering this whenever I would read about the new rideable vibrator from Alicia Sinclair (of b-Vibe and Le Wand fame), the Cowgirl. I just couldn’t figure out what would motivate someone to drop that much money on a sex toy. A friend of mine once spent $956 on a Venus for Men, but that’s a basically automated, hands-free blowjob-in-a-box. I would consider buying a toy that pricey if it would essentially give me effortless orgasms, too, if I could afford it.

But there is nothing effortless about the Cowgirl.

Based loosely on the infamous Sybian, the Cowgirl is a vibrator roughly the size of an ottoman. It’s heavy as fuck – 28 pounds out of the box – so I had to get my mom and brother to help me transport it from my parents’ house (where I had it shipped) to my apartment across town. Fortunately for me, my family is chill as hell.

The Cowgirl is marketed as essentially a slicker, more luxurious update to the Sybian. Alicia Sinclair has a habit of doing this: she previously called her Le Wand “a refined classic wand massager with upgraded features and gorgeous design,” despite it being a buzzier, louder, reskinned Magic Wand Rechargeable. I will admit, however, that the Cowgirl does indeed have some advantages over the Sybian. It’s covered in soft, luxe leather, making it more comfortable and more aesthetically pleasing than its predecessor. It has handles, making it more portable than the Sybian (well, as portable as a 28-pound, 16.7” by 13.4” by 10.9” sex toy is ever gonna be, anyway). It has fewer attachment options available – just two, an external one and an insertable one, versus the 17+ different attachments Sybian currently offers – but the all-black attachments are more aesthetically harmonious than the Sybian’s, and are also made of 100% silicone, a claim which only a few Sybian attachments can make.

I’ve only tried a Sybian once – three years ago, at my friend Epiphora‘s house, while eating pizza and watching Fifty Shades of Grey with a bunch of sex bloggers – so I can’t give you an in-depth comparison of the two, sensation-wise. However, I seem to remember the Sybian being buzzier (i.e. possessing higher-pitched vibrations) than the Cowgirl. Both are embarrassingly loud, especially at the higher speeds. Both create what I can only describe as weird intestinal feelings as I get into the higher settings – not exactly a sexy sensation for me.

The Cowgirl is a few inches bigger than the Sybian in all dimensions, which would, I suppose, make it more comfortable to sit on for certain kinds of bodies. However, for mine, it’s definitely less comfortable. I have a hip condition which makes it painful for me to spread my legs wide, especially if I’m putting weight on my knees at the same time. My knees themselves also have some mobility and chronic pain issues; keeping them bent for long periods can be agonizing. So, as you might imagine, rideable vibrators aren’t exactly my favorite thing. The Cowgirl requires my legs to splay wider than the Sybian does, so it gets painful more quickly for me. There’s been many a Cowgirl testing session when I’ve climbed off the toy only to collapse in pain, needing to stretch out my hips and knees for long minutes before I’d feel normal again. What could be a sexy foreplay toy or even the “main event” for some people is so physically debilitating to me that I usually can’t do much of anything after using it.

Theoretically, if you, too, have trouble with the straddling position, you could lie on your back and tilt the toy toward you, like the Sybian FAQ recommends doing. But the Cowgirl is bigger and heavier than the Sybian so this is trickier to manage.

In addition to its corded remote control (which is blessedly easy to use and plays nicely into my vibrator-as-hysteria-treatment fantasies with its vaguely clinical aesthetic), the Cowgirl can also be controlled either locally via the company’s own Bluetooth app, or long-distance via a different app. (Consolidating these two would’ve been way better…) The app setup is so complicated and labor-intensive, however, that even my app-developer boyfriend was like, “Nah, fuck this.” My kingdom for a We-Vibe-esque plug-and-play ease of use.

Besides its bulkiness, heaviness, unreasonable noise level, unreasonable price, and overcomplicated setup, my other main grievance with the Cowgirl is its name. It’s 2018; there is no longer any excuse for making a toy for people with vulvas and telling consumers (even implicitly) that it’s only for women. When companies do this, they alienate potential customers who have vulvas but are not women, they alienate women who don’t have vulvas, and they proudly show off how behind-the-times they are in their understanding of gender. I brought this up with a PR rep for the toy and she told me, “I’ve definitely been thinking about gendered branding… and I’m sure it’s a conversation we’re going to continue to have here,” which is nice, I guess, but feels pretty empty. We shouldn’t need to point these things out to companies at this point; they should know these things by now.

Is there anything I like about the Cowgirl? I guess. It’s pretty to look at (depending on your tastes), relatively easy to use once you’ve got it set up, and has vibrations strong and rumbly enough that they can probably get you off, if you can comfortably maintain the position the toy demands of you. I might be able to recommend it if it was less shockingly loud, or more comfortable to use, or less prohibitively expensive, but alas, it isn’t. I asked my boyfriend – with whom I’ve tested this toy a few times – what he likes about the Cowgirl, if anything, and he replied, “I like that it’s black, and I like dials.” Not exactly a rave.

If you have $2,000 to drop on a sex toy (?!) and want one that’s sure to impress and confuse, maybe you need a Cowgirl. But maybe, instead, you just need a Magic Wand Rechargeable, a Stronic Eins, and an uncomfortable chair to sit on. The net effect would be about the same.

 

Thanks to SheVibe for letting me try the Cowgirl!

Review: Doxy Number 3

Kate Sloan

You know how the details of your early courtship with a new beau feel huge and important? The album you bonded over, the shirt they were wearing when they first asked you out, the exact wording of the inscription they penciled into a book they bought you?

One such detail in my relationship with my boyfriend is the Doxy Number 3, a vibrator he bought me as a Christmas gift less than two weeks after we met. #Romance, am I right?!

Doxy #3 vs. Doxy Die Cast

I wanted this li’l wand vibe from the moment I heard that it existed. It’s basically a miniature version of the Doxy Die Cast; my sex blogger friends referred to it as the “Doxy Smol” before we knew what it was actually called. A common complaint with wand vibes is how big and bulky they are, especially the heavy aluminum Die Cast, so making a littler version makes a lot of sense.

The #3 serves my needs quite well, as a pervy jetsetter for whom hotel-sex dates in foreign countries are a common occurrence. I can throw it in my checked luggage, or even probably my carry-on, without the hassle I’d experience trying to travel with a larger, heavier wand. And being a plug-in toy, it won’t turn on in transit.

Like all Doxy products, this one is beautiful and sensual. It feels expensive and high-quality, which it’d better, considering its $150+ price tag. I adore how the wand’s aluminum/titanium body feels so cold at first and then warms up during use. The twist-off silicone head is a nice touch, making it easy to clean the toy after use without worrying about getting the mechanics wet.

All that said, this product still has some issues that I hope Doxy fixes. In fact, so many people have reported problems with this wand that Come As You Are decided to pause on stocking it because of its “high defective rate.” Mine has a couple of annoying problems. First off, it overheats after 15-20 minutes of use, seeming to taunt me for taking “that long” to come. Quit harshin’ my vibe, vibe!

Secondly, it has a mechanical problem my original Doxy and Die Cast both also suffer from: the vibrations seem to move around, and change dramatically in quality, at random. When I first turn it on, it’s buzzy as hell, but if I press the head into my body hard enough, it switches to a rumblier timbre. I can usually get it to stay rumbly for a while, but sudden pressure or movement can cause it to switch back into buzzy mode without warning – which, needless to say, is particularly annoying when you’re coming or just about to come. Yikes, Doxy. What is even happening inside your vibes?!

My other big complaint about Doxy toys, including this one, is that they all start way too powerful and don’t have lower speed options for the hypersensitive among us. But that’s not too much of an inconvenience; I can always just hold the toy adjacent to my clit until I’m sufficiently warmed up and craving stronger sensations. And ultimately, Doxy products aren’t for people who want their vibes weaker; these are next-level toys for those with next-level vibration needs. So if you like your vibrators very fucking strong and you haven’t invested in a Doxy yet, you should consider it!

I think the Number 3 is, overall, my favorite Doxy, simply because my clit prefers more pinpointed sensations than a standard-size wand can offer. I use mine a lot, especially during phone sex with the absolute darling who bought it for me. But Doxy needs to do a better job at quality control before I’ll be able to wholeheartedly recommend their products. When you buy a wand this fancy and pricey, you should be confident it’s not going to overheat or ruin your orgasm!

The Doxy Number Three is available at SheVibe and Peepshow Toys!