12 Days of Girly Juice 2021: 11 Favorite Blog Posts

Kate Sloan

While I spent a lot of this year writing books, doing book promotion, and writing articles for other publications, this blog was still my foremost and favorite home on the internet (in large part because my audience here is so awesome!!). Here are my 11 favorite posts that I published in 2021; maybe you’ll file these away and flip through ’em over the holidays, or send the links to someone you think needs to read them!

 

I’m a sentimental creature, so when I realized it had been over 10 years since one of my favorite musical works was released, I knew I had to write a post about it. “My Favorite Album is a Decade Old (& Absurdly Romantic)” is my love letter to an EP called Feathers by an artist named Jeremy Larson, whose music touches my heart and makes winter mornings more bearable. This piece is ostensibly about music but really it’s about love, romanticism, optimism, and obsession (frequent themes of this blog, if you haven’t noticed!).

It was interesting to revisit memories from 2011 while writing this post. In many ways, my life now is a bigger, brighter echo of what my life was like then: I’m still deeply in love with a very kind human (albeit a different one), I’m still optimistic about my prospects, and I’m still easily swept up in big feelings about beautiful art like Feathers.

 

I wrote “I Felt Guilty About Findom, Until I Didn’t” while struggling with the question of whether I could really consider myself a financial domination kinkster if I mostly liked receiving presents for materialistic reasons rather than sexual ones. Ultimately I think the answer is yes, because my spouse and I play with findom in a sexual/kinky way, even if it’s not always a directly sexual experience for me.

In any case, findom played a big role in helping me build self-confidence as a dominant this year. I love stepping into the Veruca Salt-esque role of a little girl who likes – nay, demands – to be spoiled by her devoted daddy, and findom gave me an avenue to do that while also building my collections of fancy bags and shoes. It’s a win-win!

 

Like many folks, I spent a lot of this year at home, so loungewear was of utmost importance. My chronic pain, fatigue, and other symptoms also ebbed and flowed (mostly flowed) a fair bit this year. These two factors inspired me to write “Building a Chronic Illness Wardrobe,” a piece that lists and discusses several of the most indispensable items in my pain-friendly loungewear collection.

I’m sure I’ll continue rocking modal slips, cashmere sweaters, and warm Ugg boots throughout the winter, fashion police be damned.

 

Have I talked about squirting in every medium available to me? Yes. Will I keep talking about it? Also yes. There are still way too many people who believe that squirt is pee (or that pee cannot be a sexualized fluid, for that matter), which is why I wrote “8 Reasons the ‘Squirt is Pee’ Study is Bad.”

A huge amount of sexual science is deeply entangled with sexism (not to mention racism, cissexism, heteronormativity, ableism, and so on), and I think the Salama study is one example of this. The researchers’ own sexist preconceived notions seem to have shaped the way they interpreted the results of the study, leading to widespread dissemination of the lie that everyone who squirts is actually peeing. I hope my rebuttal can help change some minds on this, even if only a few.

 

In the run-up to my first book being launched, I started thinking about the roles I hoped it would play in people’s lives, which is what inspired “Kinky Cuties & Their Book-Spurred Adventures.” Through little vignettes about fictional characters, it explores some of the ways a person could use a book like mine to broaden their sexual horizons, come out to a partner about a kink, and connect with new friends.

It’s been really touching to see real people doing stuff like this with my book in the real world. I love you all!

 

Although I’ve been writing about my sex life on the internet for about a decade, occasionally I still share things that I’ve never felt brave enough to share before. “Cybersex in Roleplaying Games Made Me Who I Am” was a disclosure along those lines; it chronicled some of my earliest sexual adventures on the internet, which took place before I was considered old enough to do such things. But I didn’t experience those cyber-encounters as a violation – for me, they were a revelation.

Underage sexuality is a tricky topic to talk about, but I believe strongly that teens and preteens can and do have sexualities. They’re not the same as adult sexualities, of course, and thus can’t be used (as some people insist on using them) as justification for abuse and assault of minors by adults. But I think we do a disservice to youth when we act as if they could not possibly be sexual beings until they turn 18, which is part of why I share my own stories of sexual exploration prior to “coming of age.”

 

Sometimes, people ask me the same questions over and over again for so long that I decide to address them once and for all. Hence writing “A Penis Size FAQ.”

The truth about penis size is something that many people with penises seem to have a hard time accepting, whether because of deep-seated insecurities, cultural influences, trust issues, or some combination thereof, but it really is this simple: some people care about penis size and some people don’t. Some people like bigger ones, some like smaller ones, some like average-sized ones, some don’t care. That’s the main thrust of my argument (so to speak) in the FAQ. I hope it helps people.

 

Being in a pandemic really forced me to confront my demisexuality, because it turns out that when I have very few opportunities to form new emotional connections with people, I have little-to-no desire to have sex with any new people either. One of the posts I wrote about demisexuality this year was “Can Demisexuals Have Casual Sex? (& If So, How?!)” and it covered some of the most common questions I get asked about this identity.

Will I ever have casual sex again? Probably. Will it be different from how I used to have it pre-COVID? Almost certainly. This post was an opportunity to think through my own relationship to casual sex and how I can make sure it’s satisfying and uplifting for both me and my partner(s), despite the “constraints” (if one could call them that) of being demisexual.

 

I hardly ever publish guest posts; when I do, they’re only ever written by people I know personally and have asked to write something for my blog. “Guest Review: Tantaly Monroe Realistic Sex Doll” was one such post, and it’s gotta be one of my fave things I’ve published here all year, or maybe ever. It was written by a friend of mine who is frankly hilarious, and contains so many turns of phrase that make me howl with laughter, like when he refers to the sex doll’s plastic packaging as a “powder-coated placenta” or describes the doll after use as “a buxom semen-filled effigy.”

Periodically, sex doll companies reach out to me to ask about getting a review published, and at this point I’ll probably have to reach out to yet another friend if I get another request like this, because once you have one sex doll, you probably don’t have room in your home for another. Being my friend has its perks, I guess 😂

 

I covered a topic I felt very strongly about in “5 Reasons No One Should Spank Their Kids.” It’s filled with scientific research, philosophical arguments, and my own opinions on the matter.

Going to trauma therapy for the past year and a half has made me more aware than ever of the ways my childhood punishments have stuck with me, making me more fearful, distrustful, and easily triggered than I would have otherwise been. It’s nice to see how much science exists now to back up the belief I’ve held since childhood that nonconsensual spanking is ineffective, harmful, and indefensible.

 

Finally, I gotta include “Review: Balldo” on this list. It’s not often that I get to write a review with this much silliness and wonderment in it. Here’s hoping I get to try lots of absurd toys like this one in 2022 as well!

 

Thanks so much for reading my words this year, babes. I appreciate every single one of you! ❤️

5 Great Additions to a Blowjob (+ #Giveaway: Win a Fun Factory BLOW & GLOW Kit!)

Kate Sloan

I used to think that to be good at giving blowjobs, I had to do everything with just my mouth. No hands. No toys. No positioning aids. Nothin’.

However, as I gave more and more blowjobs over the years, I learned that most BJ recipients are just happy you’re there at all – and that various “accessories” can make the act even more enjoyable for both/all participants. What a freeing notion!

Here are some of the add-ons that I think can make a great blowjob even greater. If you live in the USA, don’t forget to enter the giveaway at the bottom of this post for a chance to win some of these, in Fun Factory’s new BLOW & GLOW Kit!

 

1. A hair scrunchie

It made me laugh with delight that Fun Factory decided to include a custom scrunchie in their BLOW & GLOW Kit, because the first thing I always do when beginning a blowjob is break out the bobby pins or grab a hair elastic and get my hair out of my face. It’s very annoying to try to suck someone’s cock when your own hair keeps falling in your mouth, particularly when it works its way down to the back of your throat (if you know, you know). So it’s a blessing that a super-cute scrunchie is included in this kit. (Incidentally, did you know scrunchies cause less hair breakage than elastics? Hallelujah!)

 

2. A cock ring

While not strictly necessary, many people find that cock rings help them maintain stronger erections, and can also increase sensitivity and pleasure. I have never personally given a blowjob while a vibrating cock ring was in use, like the one included in the Fun Factory kit, but I imagine it’d be an interesting sensation for both participants!

As a bonus, if you decide to have penetrative sex afterward, the ring can vibrate your clit or perineum (depending on anatomy and positioning) for even more shared pleasure.

 

3. Lube

Despite the inherent wetness of many blowjobs, sometimes you want more, whether it be because you’re dealing with a dry mouth from medications/drugs, you’re trying to suck a bigger dick than you’re used to, or you just enjoy the aesthetic of making a big slobbery mess.

Flavored lube exists, but – as my friend Bex says – “It’s not gonna make your dick taste like strawberries – it’s gonna make it taste like strawberries and dick.” If you’re fine with the unaltered flavor of your partner’s junk, a tasteless (or nearly-tasteless) lubricant like Uberlube can make a big difference in sensation for both of you.

 

4. Pillows

I was sad when my chronic fibromyalgia pain started ramping up in my joints several years back – not only because pain is, well, painful, but also because I was worried it would inhibit my ability to give BJs. Typically while giving head, I’d be on my knees, supporting myself on one bent elbow while the other hand augmented the sensations my mouth was providing; that’s a lot of joint-bending and a lot of weight being applied to some of my sorest joints.

However, over the years I’ve learned that there are things I can do to address this. Most crucially: laying down pillows to support any body part that needs supporting. It can also sometimes be helpful to slide a pillow under the hips/pelvis of the person you’re blowing, so as to change the angles involved.

 

5. A vibrator

I’m so glad that more and more vibrators for penises are popping up on the market. The Fun Factory Manta, which is the star item in their BLOW & GLOW Kit, is one of my absolute favorites. It has ribbed silicone “wings” that wrap around the dick and provide some nice texture alongside deep, rumbling vibration. When well-lubed (with actual lube or just spit), it can be held at the base of the penis while you use your mouth on the shaft and head, which I’ve been told is pretty mindblowing.

Vibes are also useful for stimulating the balls during a BJ or holding against the sensitive perineum. Like a good hot sauce, you can pretty much put ’em on anything!

 

Intrigued by the Fun Factory BLOW & GLOW Kit and want to win one of your own, to facilitate better blowjobs? Good news: Fun Factory is offering a free kit to one lovely reader of mine. If you live in the USA, you can enter using the giveaway widget below to win. (Sorry, non-Americans!) Bonne chance, my oral-loving friends!


 

This post was sponsored by Fun Factory. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

12 Days of Girly Juice 2021: 12 Femme Essentials

Kate Sloan

December has begun, and so it’s time for my annual “12 Days of Girly Juice” series!

2021 was a weird year in similar ways to how 2020 was – full of unpredictable chaos, medical anxiety, and untold tribulations. But there were still things to enjoy this year, and this series will once again highlight some of them. To start us off, here are 12 fashion and beauty items that lit up my life in 2021…

 

Pink metallic Jeffrey Campbell cowboy boots

These were a gift from my love and I adore them. They immediately elevate otherwise-boring outfits to flashy works of art. They get compliments everywhere I wear them. They’re like the brightest, shiniest parts of my personality, distilled into a pair of boots.

I’ve loved cowboy boots since I was a teen, when I would wear them with all sorts of wild outfits. They add a certain air of rough-and-tumble-ness to otherwise feminine ensembles, which has always felt right to me as a queer femme who grew up as a tomboy. These Jeffrey Campbell ones are just the next step in my ~cowboy boots journey~!

 

Tarina Tarantino red heart necklace

I’ve written about these necklaces before, but this year I acquired a new one for my collection in a shade of rich, bright red, and I love it. It’s wild how many outfits it goes with. It instantly jazzes up more casual ensembles, while bringing a sense of whimsy to my fancier looks.

Most memorably, I wore this necklace to my book launch party, knowing that it would make a lovely pendulum for our hypnokink demo – and it did! It felt like a magic trick, turning a piece of jewelry into a kink implement right before the audience’s eyes. I hope to add at least a couple more of these heart necklaces to my collection eventually!

 

Yokoo extra-large Warmer cowl in blueberry

Yokoo Gibraan makes some of the cutest, coziest knitwear on the planet. I saved up and bought myself a small red cowl from this shop when I was in university, but more recently I was able to get a larger one in a gorgeous shade of navy blue.

Having suffered from seasonal depression and poor circulation my entire life, winter is usually a dreadful, saddening time for me; too often I spend my days indoors with soup and a heating pad, even if I’d like to venture outside, because the cold is so depressing and uncomfortable. So it makes a big difference in my life if I can actually feel warm enough when I go out. Putting on this cowl over a coat or sweater brings some instant cozy cheer into my day, and for that, it was well worth the price.

 

Coach Cashin Carry tote in pink

This was definitely one of my most-used bags of the year. I had Matt buy it for me as a findom present while I was staying in NYC in early 2021, but we had it sent to my home in Toronto and my travel got repeatedly delayed, so I wasn’t actually united with this bag until I got back to Canada at the end of April – but as soon as I saw it in person, I was delighted that it was mine.

Surprisingly roomy for its petite size, this raspberry-pink structured leather tote is based on a 1969 design by Bonnie Cashin, Coach’s first lead designer. I love bags that look like they could have been made in the ’50s or ’60s, so this is right up my alley. I love that it can be carried by the handles or by its crossbody strap, and that it’s small enough to be unobtrusive but large enough to carry my notebook, wallet, glasses, phone, lipstick, hand sanitizer, pill box, and more.

 

“101 Kinky Things” custom-stitched hat from Printful

Shortly before my book launched, I decided I wanted to own some kind of “merch” featuring its cover text, but I wasn’t sure exactly what I wanted. I experimented with mugs, tote bags, face masks, and other memorabilia on various custom-printing sites, but eventually I discovered that Printful.com will custom-stitch text or imagery onto the front of a snapback hat for you, and I was sold.

After working with me to finalize stitching color and placement, Printful sent me this beaut. I feel weirdly confident every time I wear it – and as a bonus, sporting it around town is basically free advertising for my book 😂

 

Kay Jewelers cultured pearl necklace

I wrote earlier this year about my love of pearl necklaces, and that love has endured. A simple string of pearls renders an outfit instantly classic and complete.

As someone who’s always loved “high-low” pairings, like wearing cowboy boots with a cocktail dress, I especially adore adding pearls to outfits that feel more 2021 than 1951. They feel like a link to my femme lineage, a timeless item that looks equally good on me as it would’ve on a mid-century housewife.

 

Black KN95 masks

Once again this year, face masks were an everyday necessity for many of us, and once again, I did my best to only wear ones that are comfortable, functional, and acceptably good-lookin’. They might not be the most glamorous item, but they were inescapably part of my “look” every time I went out this year, so I had to find ones I liked!

My everyday go-to masks this year were black KN95s, which my spouse introduced me to. They have a fantastic nose wire, are plain and relatively unobtrusive, and match every outfit. Sometimes, if I feel like wearing a more “fashion-y” mask that’s not as well-made, I’ll layer it over a KN95 to make sure I’m getting enough protection while still looking adorable. They’re an all-around great pick and I’m glad to have found them.

 

Calvin Klein modal slips

Calvin Klein makes some of my favorite sleepwear, and – as we’ve discussed – for me, there’s often a great deal of overlap between my sleepwear, loungewear, and casual outdoor outfits, so their stuff ends up playing a bigger role in my life than just being what I sleep in.

In particular, my short black modal slip and longer red modal slip from CK have gotten a ton of wear this year. I remember when I arrived at the hotel where I had to quarantine for 3 days alone after arriving home to Toronto in April, I felt so out of sorts from all the travel, COVID tests, etc., but as soon as I took a bath and slipped into my red CK clip, I felt so much better. It’s the type of clothing that makes life feel more beautiful and comfortable, and I really can’t ask for more than that.

 

Marissa Zappas “Paradise Edition” and Euphorium Brooklyn “Suédois” perfumes

I don’t really wear perfume often enough for these to warrant their own separate entries, but they were definitely the scents I wore most this year. The perfumer Marissa Zappas created a perfume to accompany a book of poetry written by Rachel Rabbit White, the poetess and former sex worker/sex journalist, who I’ve admired for many years. When I read that the scent was ’90s-inspired and contained breezy notes like jasmine and bergamot, my curiosity was piqued, so I ordered a sample… and I ended up loving it so much that I eventually ordered a full-size bottle! I’m glad I snapped it up; it was limited edition, and it’s so endlessly sexy, girly, and serene that I would’ve been sad to say goodbye to it when my sample ran dry.

There’s also Suédois by Euphorium Brooklyn, the same parfumerie that my partner collaborated with to make me a custom perfume for my birthday a few years back. I like Suédois because it’s a leather scent (very sexy) but not cold or harsh like some leather scents can be. It backs up the titular suede note with wildflower, sandalwood, raspberry, and Bavarian cream, which all combine to create a coziness seldom experienced in leathery fragrances. I’ve been wearing it a lot lately while lounging around the house and it makes me feel so good!

 

MeUndies rompers

Clothes from MeUndies have showed up on this list before, and for good reason: their modal fabric is some of the comfiest I’ve ever felt, and becomes more and more crucial to my life the more that chronic illness wracks my body.

Their rompers, in particular, were some of my fave items to wear around the house (and sometimes out of the house) this year. They’re so comfortable that I can barely feel them when they’re on (always a plus for someone who occasionally finds jeans and bras agonizing), and they have pockets! I wish I had one in every color.

 

Chrome-plated ash cane

My fibromyalgia symptoms were pretty rough this year, to the point that I decided to buy a cane for those days when my ankles and knees are screaming with pain. I wasn’t thrilled about having to get one, so I decided it had to be cute, so that I’d actually want to use it. I’m a femme; my accessories need to match my outfits!

I looked at lots of flashier ones, but eventually settled on this blue ash cane with a chrome T-shaped handle. It does what I hoped it would do in terms of helping me walk more easily, and its beauty makes me feel less depressed about being disabled, which is all I could really ask for.

 

Tiffany & Co. pet collar

When my now-spouse first collared me back in 2018, we knew that the collar itself was merely an object that symbolized something bigger and more abstract – our devotion to each other and to our D/s dynamic – and that, as such, we would likely need to upgrade to a new collar every once in a while. This is a normal thing in many long-term D/s dynamics, since most collars accumulate wear and tear over the years, or begin to feel less representative of the people who own it, so that an update may start to feel like the right choice.

At some point this year, I began seeing lots of targeted advertisements in my feeds for this Tiffany’s dog collar, because clearly the algorithms know me well. Tiffany’s made my engagement ring and our wedding rings, so Matt and I thought it would be romantic and fun if this was our next collar. They gave it to me for our first wedding anniversary in November, and I love it! It’s definitely not as comfortable or flexible as a collar made for people, but I’m pretty sure that it will soften with use over time. The blue and silver color scheme is perfect, matches much of my wardrobe, and reminds me every time I see it of our marriage and our love. 💙

 

What fashion and beauty items made you happiest this year?

How to Discover Your New Favorite Sexy Roleplay

Kate Sloan
Photo from my Wednesday Addams photoshoot with Cadence Lee back in 2017

Ah, roleplay. For something that is literally just grown-up playtime, it sure can cause a lot of stress and confusion. Many people wonder (sometimes in my inbox) how to get started with roleplay, what their favorite roleplays mean about them, and what scenarios they should explore through roleplay.

That last question is what I’m focusing on today. Once you know you want to try “sexy improv” (as I affectionately refer to roleplay), how do you know who you want to roleplay as?! Here are some suggestions to help you brainstorm…

 

1. Examine the media that turns you on.

Do you reliably feel a little randy when you watch Gerri and Roman verbally spar in the humiliation scenes of Succession? Does your erotic imagination continually wander back to the hypnokink antics in The Jungle Book? Do you fantasize about being wanted as fervently as Joe wants his stalking victims in You? (Am I just listing my own kinks here? Who can say…)

Media is often one of the first places we encounter dynamics we’d later like to embody and act out ourselves. It’s worth paying attention to which characters, relationships, situations, and power dynamics get your motor running, so you can translate their hottest elements into a sexy scene with a partner someday.

 

2. Ponder the words you love to call people, or to be called.

If you’ve noticed your knees get weak when you call a partner “boss,” or when an authority figure calls you “young lady,” for example, that’s useful information.

If you like, try making a list of all the titles and honorifics you can think of – sir, madam, doctor, your honor, your majesty, captain, and so on. Go through the list and take a moment to imagine what it would be like to call an attractive person each title on the list, or how it would feel if an attractive person were to call you these names. Circle the ones that make your heart beat faster and file that info away for future roleplays!

 

3. Take a quiz.

The Cheztoon ‘How Kinky Are You?’ quiz, for example, can help you narrow down the kinky archetypes you’re most drawn to. Take it with a partner, share your results with one another, and discuss!

I could also see it being useful to take a silly online quiz that tells you which character from your favorite media property you’re most similar to. For instance, I just took a “What Mean Girls character are you?” quiz on Buzzfeed and it told me that I’m Janis Ian. Extremely into the idea of a Janis-and-Regina-inspired roleplay!

 

4. Ask yourself how you want to feel.

Different people are drawn to kinky roleplay for different reasons, and it’s useful to figure out your own motivations when devising new roleplay scenarios. Do you want to feel submissive? Dominant? Innocent? Powerful? Slutty? Evil? Ravaged? Indulged? Punished? Adored?

Write down all the emotions you like to feel, whether in kink or just in life, and use that list to extrapolate some roleplay situations you might enjoy.

 

5. Consider costuming.

While costumes are absolutely not a requirement for roleplay, they can make scenes feel more authentic and grounded in reality. But also, you can consider which clothing items make you feel sexiest, and devise a roleplay based on those choices.

For example, I’ve always felt super cute in short pleated skirts and kneesocks, so a schoolgirl/teacher roleplay is a natural fit for me. I’ve had partners who felt most “themselves” in an elegant suit, suggesting they might enjoy playing a powerful entrepreneur in a boss/secretary roleplay or somesuch. If a black latex catsuit sounds like the hottest possible thing you could wear, maybe you’re jonesing for a Catwoman/Batman roleplay. You get the idea!

 

What methods have you used to brainstorm future roleplay scenes?

 

This post was sponsored by Cheztoon Take the Kink Quiz. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

The Best Sex Gifts to Buy This Black Friday

Kate Sloan

If you’re anything like me, you’re probably scrambling to find holiday gifts for your loved ones right about now. “How is it the end of November already?!” you’re screeching. “I’m not ready!!”

Well, good news: I’ve assembled some of my favorite gift-worthy sex products into one post, so you can make informed decisions and support rad sex shops while also getting great gifts for people you adore. It’s a win-win-win!

 

For cunnilingus aficionados

I’m talking here about people who love receiving cunnilingus… People who love giving cunnilingus might want a sex doll instead! (I’m only half-joking…)

“Pressure-wave” toys use rhythmic bursts of air to create “touchless” stimulation of the clitoris that can feel quite a bit like oral sex for some people. For Cyber Week, my pals at Peepshow Toys are offering two of the most popular pressure-wave toys at uncommonly low prices. The Satisfyer Curvy 3+ is an elegant and discreet toy that normally goes for $60 but is on sale currently for just $29 (no code needed); it’s remotely controllable via Satisfyer’s smartphone app, and also optionally combines vibration with its pressure waves.

If you want something similar but without all the bells and whistles, the Satisfyer Pro 2 is a classic. It’s waterproof, too, making it an ideal bathtime companion. You can grab it for just $30 this week (no code needed).

 

For adventurous fans of penile pleasure

Vibrators for penises were super uncommon just a few years ago, but the industry is finally starting to provide supply for that particular demand. The Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo is consistently one of the best-reviewed dick vibes on the market. This week, you can grab it at Peepshow for just $120 (no code needed), and they’ll even throw in a bottle of lube.

My other favorite penis vibe, the Fun Factory Manta, is on sale this week too. It’s a flexible silicone vibrator that combines well with handjobs and blowjobs or can be used on its own for focused frenulum pleasure. Normally $140, you can use the coupon code “BEACH” to get 20% off your order, bringing the price down to just $112.

 

For strap-on enthusiasts

My all-time favorite harness for strap-on play, the Aslan Leather Jaguar, is delightfully discounted right now! I love its classically kinky aesthetic, and the amount of control you get with it when the straps are properly tightened and adjusted. Use the code “BEACH” to get 10% off this handmade stunner, bringing its price down to just $86 (a pretty unheard-of price for this particular harness).

The Vixen Creations Mustang is a comfortably squishy realistic dildo that I’d heartily recommend to any strap-on beginner, so long as its size works for their partner(s). It’s usually $106, but right now you can use the code “BEACH” to grab it for only $90. Score!

 

For A-spot explorers

Fans of deep penetration ought to appreciate the lengthy (not to mention beautiful) Uberrime Night King. It’s one of my favorite dildos for hitting one of my favorite spots, and right now it’s going for just $102 with the code “BEACH.”

I’d also be remiss not to mention the formidable Njoy Eleven, which hits my A-spot so well and so hard that orgasms with it frequently make me cry. If you’ve been holding out for a good deal on one, this might be the time: it normally costs a cool $400 but right now you can use the code “BEACH” to get it for $300 instead.

 

For people who love having their balls played with

As you might recall, I’m a big fan of the Balldo, an innovative product that basically turns your balls into a dildo, with which you can fuck your partner. (Read my review here.) If you choose to buy this for someone, it’s nearly guaranteed they won’t have heard of it, and you might just blow their mind – especially if they end up having a “ballgasm”! Give it to someone who adores ball stimulation and/or someone who always likes to try whatever weird new thing everyone is talking about!

For someone who’s curious about the potential pleasures of vibration on their balls – or the surrounding area, including the perineum – I’d recommend the Dame Pom. It has a powerful motor and a comfortable shape for nestling into the palm of your hand and cupping against those sensitive bits during masturbation, a blowjob, a handjob, or even PIV (if your arms are flexible enough!).

 

For kinky fuckers

One of the easiest ways to start incorporating bondage into your sex life is to get yourself a Sportsheets Under-the-Bed Restraints set. All you have to do is slide its straps under your mattress, attach the included wrist and ankle cuffs, and you’re good to go! This version of the set also comes with a blindfold for added excitement. You can get the whole shebang for just $68 with the code “BEACH.”

Sadomasochists may want to pick up a Kinklab Neon Wand electrosex kit this holiday season. Electrostimulation is a truly unique type of pain, and this kit comes with several different attachments so you can try out a variety of sensations. Normally $146, you can get the whole set for $117 with the code “BEACH.”

If someone in your life is kink-curious but not sure where to start, you could give them a copy of my book, 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do! It’s a fantastic jumping-off point for people whose sexual tastes veer onto the road less traveled.