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3 of My Hottest Dildo-Based Fantasies 🍆✨

Kate Sloan

If you want to know what the comfiest running shoes are, ask an athlete. If you want to know the best tea for a sore throat, ask a singer. And if you want to know the best ways to use a dildo, ask a sex toy reviewer. I’ve almost hit my Malcom Gladwell ten thousand hours on this shit!

I kid, I kid… There are infinite ways to use a dildo, none of which are any “better” or “worse” than any other, as long as you’re going about it consensually and safely (and hopefully with lots of lube!). But one thing I’ve learned in my 13+ years of reviewing sex toys professionally, which I’ll share with you incase it helps you, is this: Using a dildo is even more enjoyable when you pair it with a suitable fantasy.

In fact, that’s usually where I start, when I’m testing a dildo for a review. I have to get myself turned on and wet enough to use the toy, and I’ve found that the best way to do that is to devise a hot fantasy that’s related to that particular toy. You can always fantasize about whatever you like, of course, but I find a thematically relevant fantasy particularly effective!

So, courtesy of the lovely sponsor of this post, Epic Dildos, I’d like to tell you about a few of my favorite dildo-centric fantasies – and some dildos that would pair well with them!

The Vixen Creations Bandit (all individual product photos courtesy of Epic Dildos)

The group sex fantasy

Lemme level with ya… Once upon a time, I was known in my friend group as the gal who loved to orchestrate threesomes – which I enjoyed greatly! – but those days are behind me now. I’ve come to realize that one-on-one encounters are way more my speed.

That being said, I still have group sex fantasies on occasion – as do many other people; it’s consistently been found to be one of the most common fantasies, across gender lines. Mine are usually of a cuckold-y variety. To divulge one frequent example, I enjoy the thought of my partner going down on me while a “special guest star” fucks me, and I sometimes fantasize about this while receiving head from my partner (who explicitly encourages me to do so).

Naturally, this fantasy is particularly potent when I’m actually being penetrated – and realistic dildos are the best tool for the job. My very favorites in that category are all made by Vixen Creations and feature dual-density silicone, i.e. they have a firm silicone core encased in a squishier outer layer, for an ultra-realistic feel. The VixSkin Bandit is a personal favorite of mine and my partner’s; it’s plenty long enough to hit my A-spot, but not so ridiculously thick that I need extensive warm-up before using it. This dildo fucking rules.

The Night Prowler dildo

The omegaverse fantasy

If you’re not familiar with the term ‘omegaverse,’ let me get you up to speed: it’s a trope mostly found in fanfiction, wherein there are “alpha” humans and “omega” humans. Omegas can “go into heat” like animals, thereby attracting alphas. Like canine creatures, alphas have the ability to “knot” during sex, meaning that part of their shaft swells in such a way that their dick is essentially stuck inside their partner, until they ejaculate and let the knotting subside.

I’ve been called upon to review a number of canine-esque dildos over the course of my career, and I always seem to gravitate toward omegaverse fantasies when using them. There’s something so hot about the idea of someone being (consensually) trapped inside me by their own arousal, until they finally get off. And there are about a zillion knotted fantasy dildos on the market to go along with these thoughts.

The Tantus Vamp

The sentient dildo fantasy

This has been a fave of mine over the past year or so, for whatever reason… I’m intrigued by the idea of a dildo gaining sentience, at least enough to be able to feel pleasure. I like to imagine it being vaguely confused but also super aroused as I slowly push it into me and begin thrusting it in and out. Sometimes I even combine this one with my premature ejaculation kink and imagine that the dildo reaches orgasm too soon and has to push through its subsequent sensitivity as I continue to use it, oblivious to its suffering. 😈

One great thing about this fantasy is that it works with any and every dildo – so I’ll take the opportunity to shout out the Tantus Vamp, one of the first realistic dildos I adored when I started reviewing sex toys.

What are your favorite fantasies to pair with dildos? Feel free to let me know in the comments!

 

This post was sponsored by Epic Dildos, a site with excellent navigational tools for finding your dream dildo: you can shop by size, style, color, material, and more! As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

Review: Lovense Lush Mini wearable vibrator

Kate Sloan

Happy new-Lovense-product day to all who celebrate!! 🎉 Lovense launched their newest vibrator today, the Lush Mini. They asked me to be one of the first people to review it, which always makes me feel like a vaginal VIP.

The Lush Mini is the latest iteration in Lovense’s line of Lush vibrators; I’ve previously reviewed the Lush 3 and Lush 4, so I was intrigued to see a slightly smaller version being released. These are G-spot vibes, meant to be “worn” vaginally: the bulbous internal arm presses against your G-spot while the slimmer external arm stays outside the body, on your clit.

They’re bulkier than something like a We-Vibe, so I wouldn’t recommend wearing one during penetrative sex, unless you adore feeling overstuffed! They don’t transmit much clitoral stimulation in the way that We-Vibes and Lovense’s own Dolce do – they’re all about G-spot stimulation. (They also lack a flared base, so they’re not anal-safe; get an Edge 2 if you want to experience Lovense’s amazing vibrations on your prostate.)

So, how different is the Lush Mini from its predecessors, and is it worth upgrading if you’ve already got a Lush? Let’s get into it!

Top row: Lovense Lush 4 (L) and Lush 3 (R). Bottom row: Lush Mini.

How does the Lovense Lush Mini compare to the other Lush vibes?

Here, have a comparison table!

Widest diameter

31 mm (1.22 inches)

37 mm (1.46 inches)

37 mm (1.46 inches)

Noise level

36 db

36 db

43 db

Battery life

40-minute charge lasts up to 3.9 hours

45-minute charge lasts up to 5.8 hours

77-minute charge lasts up to 3.7 hours

Weight

58 g

75 g

75 g

Price

$129

$129

$119

As you can see, the main difference is size: the Lush Mini is 6 millimeters slimmer than the other Lushes (that’s about a quarter-inch). Accordingly, it’s 23% lighter, and its battery doesn’t last quite as long. It’s priced the same as the Lush 4.

Here are some things that are true of all three Lushes:

  • All of them are IPX7 waterproof, so you can get them wet and even submerge them in water without issue.
  • All of them can be controlled either via a button on the toy itself, or via Lovense’s app.
  • All of them are made of silicone and electroplated plastic.
  • All three vibes seem to use the same motor; they feel equally powerful and rumbly.
L to R: Lush Mini, Lush 4, and Lush 3

Things I like about the Lush Mini:

  • The quarter-inch difference in width between the Lush Mini and its predecessors may seem minor, but it makes a noticeable difference. I think a lot of users would prefer the smaller size, because it’s easier to insert even when you’re only mildly-to-moderately turned on (ideally with water-based lube!), whereas a larger Lush might require a bit more warm-up first for some users. I also find the Lush Mini more comfortable for long-term wear due to its smaller size, so I think it’s the better pick for surreptitious public-play scenes, especially hours-long ones.
  • This toy’s vibrations are every bit as wonderful as I’ve come to expect all Lovense vibes to be. They’re deliciously rumbly, and have an impressively wide range of intensities which you can customize quite precisely using the Lovense app.
  • Speaking of the app: I always sing the praises of Lovense’s Bluetooth functionality every time I review one of their products, but they really are doing the app-control thing better than any other sex toy company right now, IMO. Connecting a toy to their app is quick, easy, and intuitive. The app allows you to program your own vibration patterns or try someone else’s, control the vibe yourself or invite a long-distance partner to do so, and sync the vibrations to music or other sounds, among a cornucopia of other features. The vibrations respond quickly and seamlessly to my ministrations in the app. The whole interface is thoughtfully designed and encourages playful experimentation.
  • The Lush Mini’s neck is a bit shorter and possibly more rigid than the necks of previous Lushes, which allows it to maintain slightly firmer pressure against my G-spot during use, and helps keep it from sliding around. Once it’s on my spot, it usually stays there, unless I get really wet… which admittedly does sometimes happen, since this toy is prone to making me squirt, hands-free!
  • Interestingly, the external arm of the Lush Mini seems to conduct vibration significantly more than those of the previous Lushes. I still wouldn’t consider this a clitoral vibrator per se (unless you subscribe to the theory that the G-spot is actually just the back of the clit…), but it feels noticeably more pleasurable to me than previous Lush toys because it stimulates my clit more. I still don’t think I could get off from this toy alone, because I tend to need stronger clit vibration than G-spot vibration to reach orgasm, but it gets me a lot closer than any other Lush, and feels better during that process.
  • As with the other Lushes, the Mini’s shape is excellent for hitting the G-spot with minimal effort. The way it juts out to meet your spot is so cool and just feels right.
  • The Lush Mini’s ~4-hour battery life is impressive enough, but even more impressive is its “fast-charging” function: if you plug in the Lush Mini for just 7 minutes, it’ll charge up enough for an hour of play. This is an especially useful quality in a vibe you might want to wear out on a dinner date (or similar) like this one, since it sucks to realize your vibe is dead as you’re leaving the house for an impromptu public sexcapade. Avoid that whole nightmare by plugging in your Lush Mini for 7 minutes while you brush your teeth, style your hair, etc. before your date – easy-peasy.
  • Like most Lovense toys, this one is very quiet and therefore discreet. Love that.

Things I don’t like about the Lush Mini:

  • While the Mini’s smaller internal arm makes it more comfortable for long-term wear, the trade-off is: my orgasms with this toy inside me aren’t as intense as those with previous Lushes, simply because there’s less girth to squeeze around during those climactic muscle contractions. The difference is minor, though.
  • On principle it annoys me slightly that the Mini is priced the same as the Lush 4 ($129) because it seems like a smaller vibe should be cheaper, although realistically I know that the mechanics are largely the same and it probably costs about the same to make.

Final thoughts

There’s a lot to love about the Lush Mini, and I think many shoppers will gravitate toward it, rather than the other Lushes, because of its beginner-friendly petite form factor. It’s easier to insert, requires less warm-up, and is comfier for long-term wear than its predecessors, due to its slimmer silhouette. But the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, and the Lush Mini shares tons of fabulous qualities with its older sisters: it’s strong and rumbly, quiet, waterproof, sturdily-built, and has great Bluetooth connectivity and battery life.

G-spot vibration isn’t always my jam, but the Mini’s vibrations are so satisfyingly rumbly that they add significantly to my pleasure no matter what else I’m doing. In one testing session, my partner even went down on me while the Lush Mini was inside me, nudging the external arm to the side so she could get at my clit – and the combo of her mouth with Lovense’s wonderful vibrations led to a breathtaking orgasm (complete with a bit o’ squirt) that left me feeling grateful to have a G-spot. This is the type of nifty sexual creativity that Lovense toys encourage.

If you want a G-spot vibe you can wear in public, or for hours at a time, the Lush Mini is an impeccable choice. Pair it with a Ferri panty vibe if you want more intense clit stimulation. The Lush 4 is still a solid option too, especially if you want something girthier to squeeze around. I don’t think there’s necessarily any reason to upgrade to the Lush Mini if you already own another Lush, unless you think the smaller size or speedier charging would make a big difference for you. But as for first-time users, I think a lot of them will go for the Lush Mini – it’s just so damn cute, useful, and pleasurable!

 

This post was sponsored, meaning I was paid to write a fair and honest review of this product. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

Review: VVD Vkini vibrating bra

Kate Sloan
By the way, if you want to see more of my tits, here’s a photo set and a video in which they’re prominently featured. Or you could email me to commission some custom content!

How do you feel about your breasts, if you’ve got ’em?

I feel neutral-to-mildly-positive about mine, most days. I don’t feel insecure or self-conscious about them like I did when I was younger (thank fuck!), and I certainly don’t have any dysphoria about them like some of my trans and nonbinary friends have experienced – but I also don’t think about them much, and it doesn’t often occur to me to request breast/nipple stimulation during sex, even though it usually feels good when it does happen. They’re just… not a big part of my self-conception, sexually or otherwise, and never really have been.

Part of the reason for that, I’m sure, is that there aren’t very many breast-centric sex toys (relative to other types)! Maybe I’d be more “in touch with” my boobs, so to speak, if I’d reviewed tits-focused toys in equal proportion to all the clitoral and vaginal toys I’ve tried – but almost all of the breast-y products in my collection are nipple clamps, designed to provoke pain, not pleasure. Don’t get me wrong, I like nipple clamps – but I have to be in a pretty specific mood to want my tits to be tortured.

So you can see why I was intrigued when VVD, makers of the rideable vibrating “sex saddle” I reviewed last year, reached out to tell me they’d created a vibrating bra and wanted me to review it. It’s called the Vkini (cute name!). Let’s talk about it.

What is the VVD Vkini?

VVD describes the Vkini as a “wearable nipple stimulator.” Structurally, it’s similar to a very skimpy bikini top, with adjustable back and arm straps – but instead of breast cups, it’s got spring-like silicone spirals which hold your breasts in place, while the heart-shaped vibrators in the centre of each spiral stimulate your nipples.

While it can be controlled directly via the buttons on the two nipple vibrators, the Vkini also optionally pairs with an app called MetaXSire which allows you to control the toy from nearby or afar. (More on that later.)

Included with the bra itself is two pairs of magnetic attachments, one shaped like little flowers and one shaped like little mouths, complete with tiny silicone tongue. These serve to vary the sensations you can get from the toy.

Attachments

Things I like about the VVD Vkini:

  • First of all, shout-out to VVD for this concept. I genuinely think it’s cool and unique. As I mentioned above, a lot of the breast-focused sex toys on the market are pain-based – think nipple clamps, “tit-tuggers,” and bondage bras – so it’s refreshing to see an entirely pleasure-based product in this category. I think it’s clever the way the spiral-shaped cup holds each tit in place so that the vibrator more-or-less stays put on each nipple.
  • The aesthetic of this product is very up my alley, as a lovecore fanatic! It reminds me of those LoveLife vibrators from back in the day, which I once found too girly-looking but have since come around on, because our world is so full of hatred and division that symbols of love seem more important and subversive than ever. The spirals embedded in this toy’s design also lend it a certain hypnokinky aesthetic; I think it would be particularly adored by those whose hypnosis kink crosses over into ‘bimbo’ play, like my pal Sleepingirl. (Actually… Sleepingirl, if you’re reading this and want me to send you this toy once I’m done with my review, let me know – it should belong to someone like you! 😂)
  • If you control the toy’s vibrations via its buttons, you can flip through 5 speeds and 5 patterns, which is a decent amount of variety. And unlike with most genital vibrators, I found myself actually enjoying the vibration patterns this toy has, because their rhythmic variation feels more like the type of nipple stimulation I like (having them stroked or licked) than standard vibration does. I also like that each nipple vibe can be controlled independently, as this allows for more variety of sensation.
  • If you want even more variation in the vibration intensity, you can download the MetaXSire app on your phone and control it that way. It has many of the functions I’ve come to expect from vibrator apps these days: long-distance control, syncing to music/sound, motion-sensor control, and the ability to try other people’s custom-designed vibration patterns and create some of your own. (Like many other vibrator apps, this one seems to borrow heavily from Lovense’s app in terms of design and functionality, and I don’t love when companies copy other companies, although I have to admit that Lovense has a damn good app so I understand why so many people crib from them.)
  • VVD claims proudly that the Vkini is “crafted for women of all shapes and sizes” (no love for nonbinary people…?!) but then also says it will only comfortably fit “small to medium chest sizes (A-C cups, some D cups).” That being said, my current bra size is approximately 30DD, and the Vkini fit me just fine after adjusting the straps, albeit with a bit of cup-runneth-over. My wife has much smaller breasts (an A cup or thereabouts) and it fit her too – and looked super cute, I might add! However, VVD is right that the Vkini isn’t entirely suitable for people with larger breasts than a D cup, as Sydney Screams describes in their review. Even if your boobs are small, having a wide chest may make it difficult to wear this product, because the length of the short strap between the two cups is barely adjustable.
  • The Vkini is IPX6 water-resistant, so you can use it in the shower (or in the rain… or in a waterfall… hey, I don’t know your life!) but you shouldn’t submerge it in a tub, pool, etc. Normally I prefer my sex toys to be fully waterproof so I can jerk off in the bath if I want to, but it matters less to me for a breast-focused toy because my boobs are usually above the waterline anyway.
  • I appreciate that this toy is priced at $50 (that’s cheaper than many actual bras!), and I think that’s a decent price for what you get: the vibrating bra itself, two sets of attachments, and a storage bag for the whole kit and caboodle.
  • Speaking of the attachments – while I have my issues with them (see below), I like that they’re easy and quick to magnetically attach and detach, and I haven’t had any issues with them falling off or moving around during use.

Things I don’t like about the VVD Vkini:

  • Unfortunately, the vibrations are pretty buzzy, i.e. high-pitched/surface-level, as opposed to deep/rumbly. This doesn’t bother me as much for nipple stim as it does for clit stim, since at least I can still get off if my nipples go numb (by stimulating my clit, as I normally would) – but it does make it hard for me to use this toy for more than 5-10 minutes at a time, after which the buzzy vibrations feel annoying, itchy, and desensitizing to my skin. (I will say, however, that these vibrations are rumblier than those of Lovense’s vibrating nipple clamps, which are so troublingly buzzy that they sometimes felt almost like heart palpitations to me – scary!)
  • On a similar note: the vibrations seem to be focused in the outer-facing part of the bra, not the part that actually touches your nipples. When I tried out the Vkini’s magnetic attachments, I found that very little of the vibration was conducted into them; the sensation was significantly dulled compared to using the toy without attachments. As a result, I wasn’t able to notice much of a difference in sensation when using an attachment vs. not using one, aside from the reduction in vibration strength.
  • It’s mildly annoying that each of the toy’s two motors has to be turned on and off individually and charged individually – although the toy does come with a double-pronged charger to make this more convenient, and many of the modes in the MetaXSire app allow you to control both vibes at once, after you’ve turned them both on.
  • Speaking of the MetaXSire app – it has a bunch of weird A.I.-porn functionalities built into it, which you have to pay extra for, in the form of “X-Coins” which can then be spent on things like A.I. image generation and text generation. There’s even a feature where you can clone your own voice (😬) and have it say whatever dirty talk you type in. Weirder still, there’s a bank of pre-existing A.I. voices that can talk dirty to you, including celebrity voices such as Matthew McConaughey, Lady Gaga, Anthony Hopkins, Demi Lovato, and… “King Trumpy,” a.k.a. the authoritarian sex-pest currently in the White House (YIKES!!). All of this feels unnecessary and off-putting, for reasons that myself and various anti-A.I. thinkers have previously articulated.
  • While the wearability and Bluetooth-controllability of the Vkini might lead you to believe it’d be a good toy for surreptitious public play, I think it would be EXTREMELY obvious under pretty much any kind of clothing. I’d wear it to a fetish party, maybe, but certainly not to the bank or the grocery store, etc.!

Final thoughts

If you’ve been looking for an easy, hands-free way to experience nipple vibration, I think the VVD Vkini would be an awesome choice for you, provided your boobs are within the A–D cup range. It’s a super inventive (not to mention cute-as-fuck!) product for targeted nipple stimulation.

Personally, I’d prefer if the vibrations were quite a bit rumblier, and transmitted better into my actual nipples instead of just buzzing dully on the surface of my skin. But this is the type of toy that’s probably best as a deliciously torturous tease, rather than a grand finale, so maybe it’s okay that it doesn’t entirely satisfy 😉 I especially think a toy like the Vkini would be fun for people who like long-distance teasing, since you can control the vibrations from afar using the app. Just imagine trying to carry on a normal conversation with someone while they intermittently surprise you with little buzzes, Hysterical Literature-style!

If you’re considering picking up a Vkini of your own, you can use my discount code GIRLY at checkout to get $5 off, which brings the price down to $45. That’s less than you’d spend on a new bra at Victoria’s Secret, and those don’t even vibrate. 😂

 

This post was sponsored, meaning I was paid to write a fair and honest review of this product. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

5 reasons why YOU (not an A.I.!) should write your own online dating messages

Kate Sloan
Photo by mb

Sometimes people are surprised to hear I’ve been writing about sex and relationships for over a decade, as though there can’t possibly be that much to say on those subjects (this blog’s 1.4-million total word count would beg to differ!). What I always tell them is that sexuality and romance are endlessly fascinating – not only because they contain infinite variations, but because technological and cultural progression constantly pushes them to evolve. Sometimes these evolutions are slow, and sometimes they’re rather sudden – such as, for example, the way language models like ChatGPT are affecting dating online.

I won’t go too deep into the common criticisms of this type of A.I., since you’ve probably heard them already: the creative theft, the ecological impacts, and so on and so forth. All of that stuff is important and has been written about at length by people who know more about it than I – but another thing that troubles me about A.I., personally, is the way it might affect our relationships.

It already is affecting them, in fact. I know several people (myself included) who’ve been surprised and hurt when a friend or partner sent a text that seemed to be ChatGPT-generated, as if personal connection is something that can be delegated to a digital assistant. Similarly, several news outlets have reported on the phenomenon of people using A.I. for online dating – either to help them craft their profile, or (worse, in my opinion) to write messages for them.

I very much understand the impulse, as a socially anxious person myself – but today I want to make the case for why you absolutely should not do this, even if you really want to.  You’ll be shortchanging your potential partners, but most of all, you’ll be shortchanging yourself. Here’s why:

1. A.I.-generated messages are bad. Like, embarrassingly bad.

Seriously. And they’re easy to spot, especially by people who’ve used these LLMs and are familiar with their cadence. Do you really want someone’s first impression of you to be “this person is intellectually lazy, socially unskilled, and totally disinterested in authentic human connection”?

I promise, even if you think you’re a bad writer, you’ll be ahead of the curve if you just write a specific compliment about the person’s profile followed by an open-ended and interesting question their profile inspired in you. And it’ll sound like you, not like a soulless collage of stolen excerpts. On that note…

2. You (not the A.I.) need to figure out what interests you about the person you’re messaging.

Sometimes people ask me, “What should I say in a first online dating message?” After telling them about Girl on the Net’s ‘compliment + question + connect’ formula, I’ll usually add: What caught your eye about the person’s profile? What made you swipe right (or whatever’s the equivalent on your app/site of choice)? Surely it’s something a little more specific and interesting than just “They looked hot in their photo.” Ponder the answer(s) to that question and you’ll have some good starting points for initial messages.

Sure, you could screenshot someone’s profile and feed it into an A.I. to generate a list of potential questions and talking points – but then you’re messaging them about what the robot finds notable. By contrast, the things that you find notable about someone’s profile are hugely useful clues – they can help you come up with conversation topics, sure, but more importantly, they help you assess whether this is someone you want to go out with/could be attracted to/might be compatible with. When you entrust that discernment task to a robot, you’re robbing yourself of the opportunity to get more in touch with your desires and to connect authentically with people who could fulfill them.

3. You only get better at socializing by doing more of it.

As I mentioned, I’m socially anxious myself – so I sympathize with folks who find it soothing to navigate social interactions with ChatGPT, I really do… but the thing about taking the easy way out is, you never learn to take the harder route, and so that route remains unfamiliar and foreboding. That can be a massive bummer when that route happens to lead to somewhere cool – like deep, fulfilling intimacy with another human being. Dating is a numbers game, and it ends up being a social-skills training ground for all kinds of people, not just socially anxious ones – so try not to feel bad about being unskilled at it; we all have to start somewhere.

Further, not to sound like an alarmist luddite, but some burgeoning science has shown that ChatGPT usage may make you more intellectually lazy and unengaged over time… which doesn’t bode well for its effects on relationships, an area where mental disengagement can be very noticeable, hurtful, and destructive. (Ever tried to tell a vulnerable personal story to a partner or close friend who was very obviously not listening? It fucking sucks!!)

4. When you meet IRL, your A.I. messages will be soooo obvious in retrospect.

Seriously, no one talks the way ChatGPT writes – and if they did, they’d sound strange! – so your date will probably realize pretty quickly that the texts you exchanged were a sham, which (again) is mighty embarrassing for you, and makes it hard for the other person to feel that their connection with you is genuine.

You’re putting them in an awkward position, too, since they might have their suspicions about A.I. involvement but likely don’t want to sound accusatory or insane by bringing it up. However, they’ll probably wonder about it distractingly for the entire duration of the date, which brings me to my fifth and final point…

5. You can’t outsource intimacy and vulnerability.

This is really the big one, huh?

When I say ‘intimacy,’ I mean the emotional kind (I don’t use it as a euphemism for sex). This type of intimacy is impossible to build without some measure of mutual vulnerability. And if all (or even some) of your messages are written by ChatGPT, you are sidestepping vulnerability, and you are therefore sidestepping intimacy itself.

I can’t let someone in unless I feel that they are letting me in, too. I can’t trust someone with my softness, my heart, or my body if they hold me at arm’s length emotionally. And if ChatGPT is writing their texts for them, well, they might as well show up to a date wearing a printed jpeg of someone else’s face pasted over their own – it’d be just as connective, just as sexy, and would get them just as laid.

 

What do you think about all this, dear readers? Feel free to sound off in the comments…

 

This post contains a sponsored link. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.

Review: Sohimi Viele dual-stimulation vibrator

Kate Sloan

Imagine, if you will, going to bed with a cute person, who kisses you deeply, grinds against you slowly, and – whips out a deck of cards and starts doing magic tricks.

“Pick a card, any card,” they patter away, brandishing the spread deck at you – as they kiss their way down your body, toward your junk.

Now, surely this is some people’s fantasy… and seeing as I married an erstwhile magician myself, I might even sometimes count myself among those people… but the point still stands: attempting to multi-task in bed is not always the wisest move. It can very well lead to confusion, disappointment, and accidentally getting jizz all over your pricey trick cards from the local magic shop.

All this to say: I admire the ambition behind Sohimi’s Viele dual-stimulation toy, which licks and sucks and vibrates and flaps – but I think the toy would’ve been better if it’d had fewer tricks up its sleeve. Let me tell you about it.

Things I like about the Sohimi Viele:

  • I’ve tried a lot of oral sex simulators over the years, and this one is pretty closely aligned with my own cunnilingual preferences – rare! The Viele’s “mouth” is quite top-heavy, with a thick upper lip that moves up and down in a not-quite-sucking motion (it’s more like kissing, since there’s never enough of a seal formed for it to generate suction). This works well for me; when receiving head I tend to favor a soft sucking technique over direct licking, because the tip of my clit is too damn sensitive for that – and the design and motion of the Viele’s mouth make it one of the closest things I’ve found to that sensation in a sex toy. Don’t forget to apply water-based lube generously to any oral-esque sex toy before using it! (Incidentally, Sohimi might be the best online sex toy shop for cunnilingus enthusiasts – they have more “suck vibrators” and licking toys than you can shake a clit at, many of which I have reviewed here before!)
  • While each function of the toy has 5-7 presets, you can vary their settings much more precisely by connecting your toy to the Joyhub app via Bluetooth. This was easy and quick to set up on my iPhone. Navigate to “DIY” mode and you’ll be able to individually control each of the toy’s functions using a slider. The app also lets you invite a far-away partner to control your toy, and to sync up your toy with games or videos. I’m glad to see more toy companies offering Bluetooth-controllability via app, especially toys at a lower price point like this one ($39!), especially since long-distance play has soared in popularity these last few years.
  • The low price is worth its own bullet point, because it’s rare to find a rechargeable dual-stim (or triple-stim) vibe as inexpensive as this. There’s a reason for that, though, as the next section will illustrate…

Things I don’t like about the Sohimi Viele:

  • Like many other mechanical mouths I have tried, the Viele’s mouth slows down significantly when it encounters any pressure – and I do tend to want to apply pressure with it, because it applies almost none on its own: it’s more like gentle kissing than sucking. As such, it’s an enjoyable tease at best, and when I do manage to come from it, the orgasms are underwhelming and unsatisfying.
  • The movement of the mouth is also inexorably paired with buzzyish vibration. It’s not terrible, but it dims my clitoral sensitivity over the course of a session, which – again – makes for some mediocre orgasms.
  • The shaft of the toy contains a hollow cut-out, in which there is a long noodle-shaped piece of silicone that flaps back and forth at high speeds when the “flapping” function is engaged. At low-to-medium settings, this feels a bit like some G-spot vibrators I have enjoyed, albeit much weaker… but the sensation is so subtle that it’s immediately drowned out when I turn on any of the toy’s other functions. It also seems to slow down significantly with pressure, like, y’know, my vag muscles squeezing as I become aroused…
  • I also find that the flapping function sometimes produces a queefy, trapped-air feeling in my vag when used at high speeds, which is not a turn-on for me, to say the least… and the hollow cut-out in the toy is difficult to clean.
  • The shaft also vibrates, but the vibration is so buzzy and “blah” that I rarely used it, since it generally just made my vag feel a bit tingly/itchy and then slightly numb, as tends to happen with buzzy vibration.
  • This is quite a loud toy, especially when all three functions (mouth + flapping + vibration) are engaged at once. It can definitely be heard through a closed door.
  • There’s no good way to use the toy’s “mouth” on its own, as “foreplay” for using the toy penetratively. This annoys me on principle.
  • It’s not waterproof – and even if it were, I’d probably never use it in the bath anyway because the very presence of water would probably provide enough resistance to slow the toy down substantially.

Final thoughts

It’s rare that a sex toy feels like a downgrade from jerking off by hand, like in olden times – but the Sohimi Viele falls into that category for me, unfortunately! Its mechanics are too weak to stand up to pressure, and so the orgasms it produces are weak, too.

I wrote in my testing notes, “Sure, I came, but at what cost?” – which, to be fair, is also probably what I’d say if that magician got me off and then pulled a Queen of Hearts out of my cunt and said “Is this your card?!” Sadly, with the Viele, I’m just not feelin’ the magic.

 

This post was sponsored, meaning I was paid to write a fair and honest review of this product. As always, all writing and opinions are my own.